Feeling kinda flat - can’t seem to snap out of it

[Bluechinavase]

Just feel like I’ve finally run out of gas and I’m having to make a colossal effort to do stuff that used to bring me great joy. I’m generally a glass half full person but recent personal events have left me drained, especially on the back of two COVID years. There doesn’t seem to be much to look forward to and no good news: rising costs, Ukraine, govt. corruption. Everyone around seems to be the same, just grinding on. I’m just so tired and lethargic these days. Where’s the optimism and good times?

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@Bluechinavase Sorry you've not had any replies and you're feeling down.

Do you have a partner, kids? What do you normally like doing? I think lots of people can feel like this, so you're not alone.

Don't know how old you are but I was like this; I’m on HRT and the gp suggested upping my progesterone patches. It has made all the difference. Any chance you are perimenopausal?

Oh I definitely am. Actually thought I was menopausal as hadn’t had a period for ten months but then had one two weeks ago. So there’s bound to be some hormones in the mix. Sadly HRT doesn’t work for me, tried it twice.

I have had a lot on my plate of late, each thing pretty monumental in itself. My DH is great but he seems to be the only one with any time for me. My oldest pal has gone rogue and is no support, more a drain (see other thread on getting a word in edge ways), just about every other pal has lots going on themselves or had Covid so not readily available to chat. It’s a cold Easter and I’m just keen to claim some time back for me and recharge but struggling to find the enthusiasm

Did the doctor give you any other options regarding the menopause? i'm dreading that ahead of me! When you say that you've had a lot on your plate, are things likely to settle down in that regard soon?

@CrazyRatLover yeah they should be a bit more settled now but I just need to manage them appropriately for my own mental health.
Elderly Mum almost died but is now back home from hospital with care package but it's been a mental rollercoaster with changing outcomes every other day. Her being home and just sitting there is hard to watch. Have also had a strange relationship with her which I sought counselling for. The whole situation has made me see my family dynamic and relationship with siblings in a different light and in a way I'm grieving for it.
My own medical issues which I'm trying to sort out - it's taken me since the birth of my son (17 years ago) until now to finally get referred to the right place re an issue I've had, plus an ongoing sore back. I generally a very healthy, fit person but this is impinging on my ability to do as much as I would like to.
Aforementioned teenager currently studying for exams and the stress that comes with that. He's also got another stress potentially on the horizon which I know he's worried about and keeping a close eye on him.
Recent long weekend with rogue friend coupled with the migraine that comes with a sudden period, left me feeling totally drained.
DH generally great but worried about his job so that seems to take precedent at the times when I feel I need most support.
I didn't really get any other help with menopause. I try to self help with a diet of vitamins etc. and keep a close eye on my general well being. But again, it's a very under funded area and deserves a lot more research into it. I suffer from hormonal migraines. Adding HRT into that mix didn't help one iota so didn't see the point of taking it.
So all that mixed with the general shitiness of the world just now has taken it's toll. Thanks for reading this and replying. It feels therapeutic to write it all down.

You have a lot on your plate and I can see how they've got on top of you. You get to see people for what they are don't you in certain situations, I'm sorry you've had a tough time.

I can relate to all your other issues, I hope that your medical issue gets sorted. I can sympathise with this. I had years of trying to get multiple diagnosis regarding my health. If you need to chat about that, feel free. I also have teens and issues!

Could you go back to the doctor about the HRT? I'm sure I read that there are other forms if you're intolerant to the common types.

Sending you support

@CrazyRatLover thank you. Sometimes knowing someone has heard and gets what you say is enough to make your day.

Go to a private peri/menopause clinic. Asap.

Yes I agree with you on that. Glad I've helped. Have you visited the menopause forum on here?

Yes often! I’m hoping that the recent period was just that. When I hadn’t been having any I felt much more me. I’m 53 so surely there can’t be much longer left.

Yes probably dips in levels causing you to feel like that. Must be horrible not knowing when that's going to be though. Sounds like they could be nearly gone for good though, hopefully.

@Bluechinavase Which hrt did you try? One size does not fit all and you may find something different suits you better.

I tried three types, can’t remember exactly.
First was tablets
Second was tablets and a rub on gel
Third was a vaginal one

What about the patch?

Sounds like you tried! But there's lots of reasons why you might not have found the right solution for you, especially when in peri. You could ask for a referral to a menopause clinic, or perhaps consider going private as with quite a lot of G.Ps it can be a bit hit and miss re menopause advice and treatment.