I feel absolutely dreadful and can't actually look after dd properly - call dh??

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Have never brought him home from work before (apart from a kidney infection)... he is a teacher so isn't really very easy (not that it is easy in other jobs but you know what I mean).

Have had this cough and cold for over a week but seems to be getting worse. On top of this, it seems to be making 'morning' sickness worse - have been up since 6am throwing up (am 12 weeks pregnant). Have NO voice so can't call anyone - can barely move tbh so can't go out. Am struggling even getting dd fed and basically cared for. Got to change her nappy - am exhausted thinking about it.

Dd has the same thing as me pretty much so is whingey too (although thankfully not as much as me doesn't really want to eat - so crisps for lunch ) but I can't really talk to her which is really really hard. Thankfully she is sort of happy watching cbeebies ALL DAY (and spent a nice couple of hours watching telly/napping in bed just now).

Nothng is making me better and as far as I know I can't take any medicine. Just need to lie down - feel sick if I am up for too long, even if I have eaten. Got masive headache too and sinusy thing

Anyway, my mum isn't answering the phone. Am I being completely wussy in asking dh to come home and maybe stay off tomorrow?

Thanks for letting me whinge

I'd ask him to come home. Poor you - you sound like you need looking after and with another child too you must feel really awful.

Cbeebies is great for when you're ill - well, actually when you're not ill too!!!

I know he's a teacher but he could always say it's him who feels ill and he could take a sickie for a day - especially as you've got morning sickness too.

Hope you feel better soon

I'm sure your DH would understand if you felt you needed to

Can you take DD to bed with you? If you have a TV in your room you can snuggle up together - take up some snacks, doesn't matter if you don't normally let her have them but use them to get through. If you have a laptop take that too and go to the cbeebies website together - I did this with DS on Fri when I just HAD to go to bed. He was really in to it. Then I just shut the stairgate and let him get on with it, playing in his room, bouncing on the bed around me and the next thing I knew he'd fallen asleep next to me.

Worth a try? Sorry you feel so pants. Morning sickness is just the pits for draining the life out of you even without a cold. You could take some paracetamol by the way.

I had to call my dh home last week.
Myself and the kids werent well and tbh how I got out of bed is a mystery to me I was that pants.

Morning sickness is awful and having cold/flu on top is not pleasant. You poor thing.

Give him a ring. Its not like theres much of his work day left now is there.

It's a bit late in the day for him to come home and as a teacher, very difficult to replace so I think it would be a bit unfair to expect him to stay at home.

Can you last out until he has finished teaching at 3.30 or whenever, ask him to get home asap and then he can ring your Mum/ friends to make arrangements for tomorrow?

I know it's rough but you've said yourself that dd is sort of happy watching tv all day (won't do her any harm while she's poorly, nor will crisps for lunch ) - realistically what can he do to help you? Can she come to bed with you?

Thank you!
I just needed some sympathy I think.

Weegle, telly in bed is lovely - and we do that a lot (even when not cold-y) and tbh I am mainly led by dd - she says bed telly . Embarrassingly she has been on a Xmas diet for er.. a while... but no crisps and an apple (clutching at straws here) won't hurt her.

It is more the fact that I can't play with her and do what she wants to do, and can't even explain - and the stuff I actually have to do like feeding and nappies... i feel terrible moaning cos she is actually being really good (although got a little whingey when i started on this). i don't think i would be coping if i was just looking after me

thanks for advice with dh - can't ring dh cos i can't speak!! but yes, I prob wouldnt want him to come home if he has afternoon lessons. He normally finishes at about 5.30 so he will have quite a lot of work to do (and wasn't really able to do any over the hols - looking after me! I havent either - no idea if i will be going in on thurs - def not if still no voice... am teacher too!). Am gonna push for him to see if he can stay home (if mum can't come) tomorrow... He is never ill - so could prob get away with it

can i take paracetamol? what about a lemsip?

Poor you - sounds horrible. You can take paracetamol.

Poor you, sounds rubbish!

Paracetamol is fine. I'm not sure lemsip is (although I had a couple when I was pregnant last time.) Honey and lemon would be better, and there's paracetamol in the lemsip so don't OD!

Hope you're better soon and someone can help you out!

lemsip only has paracetamol in anyway so no difference I think.

Hope you feel better soon.

Oh yeah, could try normal honey and lemon, good idea

Off to take paracetamol then. DD ridiculously happy watching Pocoyo, drinking milk and bashing her xylophone. I am so lucky to have such an easy-going toddler, she keeps coming to stroke my hair...
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(fast-forward to 5 mins when I force-whisper that I need to change her bum and she has a looney meltdown... hopefully Pocoyo will distract her... )

Poor you, can you not phone a friend or relative to come and look after you? if not then i would ask dh to come home, then you could got to bed for the rest of the day and sleep it off and hopefully you will feel better tomorrow.

You have my sympathy im just getting over flu and had to look after a 17 mth old alone as i have no dp to help out. Hope you get well soon.

Poor you, can you not phone a friend or relative to come and look after you? if not then i would ask dh to come home, then you could got to bed for the rest of the day and sleep it off and hopefully you will feel better tomorrow.

You have my sympathy im just getting over flu and had to look after a 17 mth old alone as i have no dp to help out. Hope you get well soon.

Oh yes, I know am a teacher too! (and much more of a sickly one that dh...) Have texted him to ask him to come home as soon as he can... Might have to actually call and whisper on the phone to him at 3ish.

My mum is coming tomorrow - hurrah. But dr appt on Weds and hopefully I will be feeling better sooooooooon. Looks like I might not be in work on Thursday though - when do voices come back? (I have taught the introduction of a lesson in silence - miming- but I think I would struggle for an hour and a half... )

Whiteboard instructions and sign language I would have thought !

Luckyunderpants, you make me feel as I know I am so lucky that dh has been off all week with hols looking after me!

Hats off to single mums - I have so much respect for anyone doing the mum-thing alone.