Someone slap me, I'm being irrational and a complete prat

[harman]

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Hi,I dont think you are being ridiculas .Most people would be the same.Try not to wind your self up about it as it will make you even more afraid.I sure every thing will go well.GOOD LUCK (smile)

I am sure you will be fine Harman. Is it general anesthetic you are having? If it helps, I had one in September and it was much better than I thought it was going to be.
However, it does sound like you have unresolved issues with exp. Do you have any agreement in place as to what would happen with the kids if anything did happen to you? (Not that I think you need it before Friday at all, but it is something to think about for peace of mind in the future maybe)

oh harman, i do sympathise. i once had a breast lump removed under local anaesthetic as i was so scared of having a general. i was the only one to opt for a local out of a long list of patients. i think they thought i was nuts!

anxiety can be very debilitating. no real advice, but you are not alone in your worries. you will be fine. big hugs xx

Harman, I had a minor op just before xmas & also worried myself silly over it. However, it was fine, the anaestheologist {sp?) was very nice. He sat down with me the morning of the op and went over everything that would happen, what I would feel etc, what would happen when I woke up. Its not pleasant but I'm sure you will be fine.

I agree with Jackstini that in the future you might want to look at your practical arrangements for your own peace of mind.

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Good for you Harman for having the foresight to put things in writing.
How old are the children? Quite sure your family would never let them forget you anyway.
Make sure you are happy with the amount of time you need to talk to the anaesthetist (sp?) on the day. Will anyone be going with you?

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Make sure she lets us know as soon as you are out of op and doing fine then!!

I understand your worries. I had to have a couple of GA's a few years ago and I was petrified even though I'd had two before - the difference was I had children this time.

After the first one I remember thinking that was fine, I won't be scared again. I had another one about two weeks later and I wasn't scared!

But..now it's been a few years I think I'd be scared again.

No doubt you'll be on here soon telling us how you wish you hadn't worried

oh harman - you are anxious and your anxiety is making you feel like this. Minor ops are so quick and so safe now.

I have had 5 minor op GA and I quite like them now (weird I know) and the anxiety is natural but also irrational.

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You're not being a prat at all. I'd get the will sorted or you're just going to continue to worry about it. My dh has been/is quite ill so consequently whenever I go on a journey on my own I panic that I'm going to get killed and then our DCs are going to end up orphaned. Funnily enough I only worry about this if I'm on my own and if I'm going out with friends or away with work ... mother's guilt eh? It is irrational anxiety but that doesn't mean you're wrong to feel it ... you will be ok though

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Oh Harman You, WE, will be fine

I have been the same when I had to have GA for complications after a miscarriage. I think it was all to do with being rather fragile at the time. I wrote letters to the DC in case I died which helped a bit even though it didn't exactly take away the fear.

I am going in hosp at the end of the month and am exactly the same. Don't think you are unusual that way!

I also think it is perfectly normal to feel more anxious about your op now that you have dc - it's the fact `that you feel so responsible now. If it helps I was once chatting to an anaesthetist who was telling me with the technology these days and safer anaesthetics you were statistically actually at a much higher risk of danger whilst driving to the hospital than you were whilst under a GA.

Good vibes for today Harman - I feel sure that it will be fine.

Well she didnt die...and the anaesthetist was smoking hot
Shes recovering now and will post all the details im sure