HELP!!! Tearful pathetic emetophobe needs to hear that sometimes you can be around families with a bug and you don't all go down wiith it yourselves!

[DaphneHarvey]

Anyone? Hopeful that there are people out there whose kids have been in school when half the class are off with a bug, for eg., but their dcs didn't get it themselves.

I know it won't change the reality of our situation, what will be will be etc, but I just feel so doom-laden atm and really depressed. Maybe we won't get it?

Anyone out there to cheer me up?

Please if you don't mind, I don't want to know about the times you thought you'd got away with it and then did get ill ...

Thanks {huddles in corner feeling sorry for self}

Coldtits all I can say is DITTO

Thank you coldtits. I hear what you are saying. You are so right.

You all are.

DH came home. Was all cross with me cos am in bit of a state. He has sympathy but he also has limits. He was hoping to come home to happy domestic scene, wife wrapping presents etc. Instead all is chaos. Feel like shite.

Am hopeless case. Tried to explain to him: if you had to go and have a huge great injection right now (he is phobic about needles) I would happily do it in your place. I'd have 100 injections, etc. He still doesn't really get my ohobia because of the disruption it causes EVEN IF NO-ONE IS ACTUALLY VOMITING.

I have a close friend with emet, I am her phone buddy. It's all very well knowing that we are right, but you have to feel it. And needles freak me out totally and make me hysterical. But (and it's a big but) needles are predictable.

If someone said to me "At some point this month, your child will take it into his head to inject you in your sleep with a hypodermic needle, and you will wake up and have to deal with it" I would be a nervous wreck. But that, effectively, is what emetophobes have to deal with - - the unsurity of what they fear most.

What someone professional has said to my friend is, short term, have a p[lan. Long term, try to desensitise yourself to it. Start with listening to the sound of someone being ill - on the computer or something. move up, with pictures and videos, waiting until you can face each stage without panic, and it should move the panic down for you.

My DH couldn't be with me when I was having spinal block for second c/s because of his needle phobia. So I was completely accepting of having to be alone at that time. In fact, the chaps in operating theatre said "have you got anyone to be here with you today?" (they thought I was single parent) - DH had to be led in by the hand when they were just about to start the operation.

People with phobias are on their own unless they have fantastic friends (like you coldtits).

My therapist is working me up to the stage when I can watch videos. Such things apparently do exist for ppl like me. Can't say I'm looking forward to it ...

sadly have absolutely no words of wisdom. but, as a fellow emetaphobe i hear you (with a very empathic/sympathetic ear...)

i am so utterly exhausted from all the worrying i have been doing since sept/oct when i started hearing about the abundance of sick bugs doing the rounds. god help me when my ds starts nursery next year. really not sure how i will manage with the constant threat.

sorry, not v helpful to you just now i fear. just trying to demonstrate that you are not alone. sometimes safety in numbers helps a bit i find.

but i do think you will be fine tonight actually. thinking of you.

Watching a video would be the absolute ultimate for me - I would rather see the real thing. I can't stand movies were characters vomit - and I know that that is not real.

Ds takes probiotics and hardly ever picks up stomach bugs from kindy, and if he does they don't seem to be as awful. Maybe the two are related?

How are you feeling this morning DaphneHarvey? Hope you all had a peaceful night and the dcs are looking forward to putting out their stockings tomorrow!

Thanks for asking Belgian. DS slept right through the night. I was awake on and off anticipating the worst, eventually getting v early cos couldn't get back to sleep.

He has coughed non-stop today (dry tickly cough) so frayed nerves are extra frayed.

Still not happy by hey-ho. I also managed without valium today. The dcs are very excited about Christmas. Even if they are sick I think they'll still enjoy themselves .

Well done you for managing without the medication at such a stressful time. Dd also developed a temperature and a horrible cough today! Whenever she coughs I expect her to be sick afterwards . This sort of a bug doesn't frighten me as I know it doesn't affect me like that. Not fun for her though - and we are going away for 3 days tomorrow!! JOY!

Take care of you!
bb xx