Body image

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I’m fat. I know I am. For my height I am overweight by about 5 stone and I hate it. I have tried what seems like every diet on the planet and nothing seems to work. I have joined the gym a million times and try to combine classes and cardio etc with healthy eating and it makes no difference. It really upsets me when I try so hard and feel like a fat failure. I have cut alcohol out of my diet for about a year now along with everything I loved (chocolate, white bread, pasta, crisps, cheese, gluten). I feel like everything I eat is bland and awful and I have no enjoyment anymore in anything I do. I avoid going out with friends as I don’t want to have a coffee or tea out and regret it later. I don’t go for meals out because I will just make myself sick afterwards for eating anything I enjoy. My mum gets on at me all the time for my weight and tells me everything she sees me “you’ve put weight on” or “you really need to lose weight”. I AM TRYING SO HARD! I have PCOS and struggle every day with symptoms. Tonight on my way home from a friends house a random man called me a “fat cow”. That’s what has done it for me. I have cried and cried and cannot sleep. I can’t take it anymore. Im so done. The doctor wont help me. Anyone in the same position? I just want to love myself again.

Perhaps time to change GPs. It's clearly affecting your mental health. And we all know that being overweight is bad for your physical. Health so your GP a should be willing to help.

Have you had any blood tests? Perhaps there is some other health issue that is
Contributing to your inability to lose weight.

Oh OP, I feel for you, I've been there. Go easy on yourself.

"Diets" don't work, and exercise isn't really necessary for weight loss, though it's important for health. The only thing that's worked for me (and it has worked), is completely changing the way I eat, along the lines of the Mediterranean diet.

There is a very supportive and friendly thread where a few of us follow this type of diet, why not have a look: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/4332041-Why-We-Eat-Too-Much-Thread-4

We follow the principles in books like Why We Eat Too Much and The Four Pillar Plan (I personally love this one, it's so positive and practical).

At my heaviest, I was 5 stone bigger than I am now (I also have PCOS, though I don't experience many of the symptoms anymore). I'm a healthy weight and my diet is not remotely bland.

Oh dear, huge hugs to you! Honestly why do these people exist? I don't understand why someone would just go about their day and scream insults to a random person!

I have PCOS too and have always struggled with my weight and this kind of "people" do not help!

In any case, pressure your doctor to help! They have to, you're struggling with a syndrome and they should support you. After lots of tests and doctors, I found that metformin helps me in combination with changing my diet and lifestyle often. Apparently my nutritionist said that my PCOS is very adaptive and we need to change the kind of diet when the previous one stops working.

Maybe you should find another doctor?