Son born without foreskin

[ComebackQueen]

Hi all

My son was born early and underweight and, truthfully, his foreskin was the least of my concerns.

However, upon discharge from the hospital, we had to compete some tests and the midwife had remarked my son didn’t need to be circumcised, in a joking but not jokingly way. I’m not Jewish but my husband is so she probably made the remark based on my sons very Jewish last name.

I admit this didn’t really seem a big deal but I’ve now met my HV and when changing his nappy in front of her she asked when was he circumcised. I said he hadn’t and he wouldn’t be because I don’t believe in mutilating my child in the name of religion. She obviously picked up on my anger and then said, don’t worry by a year his foreskin would have grown over.

Now, my husband who ideally wanted to circumcise our child but relented when I said if he wanted his child to follow all his religious customs then he should have married a jew, has said it looks like our son has a very small foreskin and has worried me as he said this may lead to infections and other gory things.

Anyone else who have sons been through similar and the foreskin grew back normally? Or am I better off going to the GP and assessing him properly and, if my husband is correct, looking into surgery to avoid him getting infections and other gory things?

You have no idea if he will get infections in the future, so I would leave it and ONLY if it becomes a problem, then take him to a doctor.

@Vapeyvapevape thanks I thought that, my hunch is husband may use this as a back door for having him circumcised as his mother is currently given him crap for it.

Just wait and see what happens?
It may grow, it may not
He might never have any issues....lots of men dont after all
Congratulations

Your DH chose to marry a gentile. Your DS isn't Jewish.

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He's missing a whole load of skin from his penis?

See the doctor FFS. Obviously. I mean what the hell?

@CheeseMmmm

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He's missing a whole load of skin from his penis?

See the doctor FFS. Obviously. I mean what the hell?

It is not uncommon to have short foreskin that doesn’t cover the glans of the penis.

The OP doesn't sound unhinged to me, she sounds like she's recently had a baby and is worried/frustrated by family expectations.

Anyway OP, my son had an issue with his foreskin and several doctors told me it would "probably grow back". So I am guessing it must happen. In our case they were advising me badly as he actually had mild hypospadias and a hooded foreskin (which is a pretty obvious sign of this common birth defect) and it was never going to 'grow back'. We were referred to a urologist who was so helpful, but only at the 8 week check up, after having seen three other doctors, and several health visitors/midwives with the benefit of hindsight, should have known better and could have just said to me that it might need looking at.

So my advice is to book an appointment with the GP and talk to them about yoir concerns (even if they are unfounded) and don't let them fob you off.

Isn't it?

I don't have a huge knowledge of babies foreskins and if my baby had a big or small anything I'd be asking tbh.

Have you had... Is it 6 weeks you get the doc check? Ask then.

personally im against circumcision but eother way i would wait and Go to the GP if nothing changes within the next 6 months just in case.

My OH was born with no foreskin. Alls good with it btw. No issues at all

You can get it checked out if you are worried. I doubt a short foreskin on it’s own will cause infections - and if it does, you’ll notice there is an issue (child saying it stings or noticing some discharge there or smelly urine or redness). Some men just have naturally short foreskins and are fine.

@AliceAldridge

The OP doesn't sound unhinged to me, she sounds like she's recently had a baby and is worried/frustrated by family expectations.

Anyway OP, my son had an issue with his foreskin and several doctors told me it would "probably grow back". So I am guessing it must happen. In our case they were advising me badly as he actually had mild hypospadias and a hooded foreskin (which is a pretty obvious sign of this common birth defect) and it was never going to 'grow back'. We were referred to a urologist who was so helpful, but only at the 8 week check up, after having seen three other doctors, and several health visitors/midwives with the benefit of hindsight, should have known better and could have just said to me that it might need looking at.

So my advice is to book an appointment with the GP and talk to them about yoir concerns (even if they are unfounded) and don't let them fob you off.

Thank you, @RampantIvy especially for defending me against that poster, it was not my intention to be either unhinged nor anti Semitic, in fact it’s left me mortified someone would deduce such from my post.

@AliceAldridge due to your post, I have managed to secure a GP appointment and, will ask for a thorough examination and mention this condition specifically.

Thanks to all the other lovely and helpful people who posted.

I’ll update once I speak to the GP, hopefully it’s really a case of it growing back.

I had an ex boyfriend who was born without a foreskin. It was fine. He had no issues.

Fingers crossed OP. Let us know how you get on.

It's OK @ComebackQueen. Her remark was completely uncalled for. I hope all is well with your little boy.

I have re-read op's post and I still fail to see how her husbands Jewish origins and her reservations about Jewish religious customs (which she calls "genital mutilation") have any relevance to her concern about her son's foreskin.

My youngest was the same but was diagnosed pretty quickly as having been born with a mild hypospadias. He had surgical correction at around 6months plus circumcision of the small foreskin he had left at the same time as our consultant said it was an area that tends to get infected so would rather get it over and done with in one operation. He is 100% fine now. And no-it wasn’t done privately either!

Just got back from the GP, my son has very short foreskin and provided it doesn’t lead to persistent infection (repeatedly being infected in a short space of time) then usually foreskin will grow back, unless there is a medical need, the GP has advised to leave as be.

After a year of foreskin hasn’t grown he said his advice would still be ‘leave as be’ providing no infections etc.

@BFrazzled

You really are an appalling person to deduce something that isn’t there.

My son is not Jewish as @StopGo rightly pointed out and I don’t agree with boys being circumcised nor FGM, as is my right not to agree. Others whom are in favour well that is for them.

Toodles.