So worried. Bleeding after sex lower stomach ache and back ache for months

[Jays84]

Hello, I’m 28 had a baby 9 months ago. The past 2 months I have been bleeding after sex with my partner. Every single time. I have also got lower back ache and stomach ache. It hurts to have sex. I went to the doctors last week they got me to see a nurse who checked me and said ‘I look fine’ internally but she will refer me to see a gynaecologist and warned me it will be a long wait. Anyway since last week the problems are worse bleeding is more heavy and painful. I’m so scared what do I do? I’m panicking and thinking the worst worrying it’s the big C and my daughter being without me. How long do these referrals usually take? Thanks

Have you had a smear done before?

@Mammaaof yes I had one 6months ago 3 months after baby was born

If it's got worse I would go back to the doctor (see the doctor this time) and ask to be referred for an ultrasound scan.

I would contact the surgery again and ask for a gp appointment. Tell them your symptoms are getting worse.
I am sorry you are suffering and worrying.

@crazyguineapiglady @endofagain called bang on 8.30 to be told by the receptionist. ‘You don’t need to speak to a doctor I will get the same nurse to call you, not really sure what you want her to do she’s already referred you to a gynaecologist and for a ultrasound’

I’ll see what she says when she calls back.

Well, I was a clinical nurse specialist in GP. I would speak to the GP myself about you as soon as I got the message that you were experiencing worsening symptoms. So I would hope this practice nurse will do that.

The receptionist should keep her opinion to herself.

Sorry this is poor treatment. Your symptoms are worsening so you are absolutely right to seek advice. The receptionist is frankly in the wrong job.

I'd be thinking an std rather than cancer tbh. Those symptoms are what I got when I caught chlymidia. Personally I'd go to a GUM clinic anyway, it's quicker and they're very thorough and mega quick if they suspect cancer.

chlamydia* thought it didn't look right.

GUM clinic is a good shout. The receptionist needs reporting unless she is a medical professional doing the receptionist job as a side hustle. I would think you would need a referral under the two week wait.

Could also be cervical entropion. Totally harmless condition where womb cells grow on the outside of the cervix. With a recent clear smear it's really unlikely to be cancer.

*cervical ectropion

I had a cervical ectropian years ago and if I remember rightly I did not have any abdominal or back pain with it, but that might not apply to everyone. As for the receptionist (I worked for 16 years in a GP surgery) she had absolutely no right to refuse a GP appointment when you have worsening symptoms. If you get no joy from the nurse you could check your surgery website, on the list of Doctors at the surgery they often put their qualifications after the name of the Dr. I would look to see if any have DRCOG or MRCOG - both qualifications from the Royal College of Gynaecologists and absolutely insist on speaking to one of those.

Could be a bad UTI.

In my experience they don't take you seriously unless you become a pain in their ass. My fibroids weren't diagnosed until they were so bad I needed a hysterectomy. Don't let them brush you off. GUM clinic is a good shout , but also keep on their case it really is a case of quiet bairns get nothing

So sorry you are going through this Op.

I had those symptoms which turned out to be endometriosis.

I also suggest finding your local sexual health clinic. Much more likely too see someone quicker.

Thanks everyone who commented on here..

Thankfully the doctor called me back upon the nurses request. Yes the receptionist isn’t the nicest there I’ve witnessed people calling her rude and arguing with her when in the surgery countless times before.

The earliest appointment I can get with the gynaecologist is in late January . They have sent me for an ultrasound and I have a telephone assessment with a GUM clinic on Friday then they will book me an appointment to come in after that. I’m just so worried. I have been with my partner for 8 years so I don’t see it being any form of STD (hopefully not !!) And he’s pushing for me to get it checked out ASAP.

I’m just very worried thinking the worst. They said it’s a huge backlog of patients from the hit of the pandemic so can’t see me any sooner than January.

So frustrated.

I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t panic. I have had abdominal pain and bleeding after sex, all caused by cervical ectropian. It can gradually get worse, I had to change the sheets after I bled quite heavily during sex. Did you bleed after your smear? This can happen if you have an ectropian, but not always.

My friend had irregular bleeding 6 months after having her baby so they investigated and it turned out she still had some placenta left inside. She needed a D&C in the end, but she was fine.

There are lots of harmless things it could be, but once we become mums we always fear the worst. Don’t forget too, if you get your ultrasound before your gynae appointment they will get you seen sooner if they see something concerning. So you aren’t stuck until January.

Fingers crossed you get your scan soon x

Can you afford to get a scan done privately? There's a place near me that does a pelvic ultrasound for £60.

I had bleeding after sex and it was cervical ectropion.
I had it cauterised , then had no more problems.
I remember waiting until my DD was two and at nursery, because I thought it would be easier for DH if I died under anaesthetic and she was settled in nursery. I know how crazy it sounds, but you get crazy in these situations 💐

I have endometriosis and the symptoms sound the same. Hope you get it sorted.

Thanks everyone for your nice reply’s. Sorry for the late response. I am a nervous wreck about it. I have looked privately and we don’t technically have money to be spending but have some in savings and my partner doesn’t want me waiting so think I will have a colposcopy done privately. I have found someone in my area for around £650. I have been checked for endometriosis in the past about 5 years ago because of the opposite had no bleeding at all but was clear then. I will go privately and also wait for my ultrasound. It is true once your a mum worrying becomes so much worse. I dread thinking about it. Thanks for your responses

Good luck Jays. I hope you get the help you need and are able to resolve your problems soon