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Please please help

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Lovelovelove74 · 30/08/2021 17:53

I have severe agoraphobia. I don't go out at all. I was in a dv relationship. He shattered some teeth and I have stumps now due to that and bulimia. I'm in agony today and no one will help. I asked my doctor to sedate me to get me there. They won't help. No dentist can do anything here at home. I'm sick of looking disgusting and coping with this pain. I can't take another hour of this pain and I will take every painkiller I have. No one will help and it's destroying me

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RuthTopp · 30/08/2021 17:54

Can you phone 111 and ask for advice ?
Sorry to hear you are in pain.

HerRoyalRisesAgain · 30/08/2021 17:57

Please please don't give up.

I suffer from lots of MH problems, although admittedly agoraphobia isn't one.

The fact you're reaching out here is a positive step. Do you have anyone you trust in your life who can work with you to slowly get you to a dentist and see what they can do? My mums 50 and has full dentures, they have given her her confidence back.

It's not going to get better overnight, but every little step is a step in the right direction

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Lovelovelove74 · 30/08/2021 18:24

No i have no one. And I have coped with the pain on and off for years. No more. I just can't

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GreenTeaPingPong · 30/08/2021 18:29

Hey OP, please hang in there. If you're thinking about taking too many painkillers, please phone 999 for an ambulance, or phone the Samaritans 116 123.

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Lovelovelove74 · 30/08/2021 18:45

I don't have the energy to make anymore calls to people who can't help. I get patronised and actually have people be incredibly hurtful and I just want to be out of pain. I accept my situation is not normal but why do I have to live like this. I hope if I sleep that I don't wake up. There's no point when this is all life is. It's pathetic. I'm disgusted with what I've become

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HerRoyalRisesAgain · 30/08/2021 18:46

Life can be incredibly cruel, but please reach out for professional support

ChocolateHelps · 30/08/2021 18:58

Keep talking. Here or on the phone. Your life is worth fighting for. Please

MrsBaileyIsNotHome · 30/08/2021 19:01

Is there anyone who can go with you tomorrow or later in the week for an emergency appointment? And support you to leave the house? I know this is so hard for you.

Bagelsandbrie · 30/08/2021 19:02

Have you asked your Gp for medication for your anxiety? I know that probably sounds very patronising and I don’t mean it to it’s just that sometimes unless you’re very specific they won’t know what you actually need- ie they won’t sedate you for the tooth issue but they may give you some diazepam and anti anxiety medication which might help you long term / short term and enable you start making some plans to get out.

I do understand how disabiling it is. I have agoraphobia and panic disorder myself and my Gran had it so badly she didn’t leave the house for 5 years at one point. Diazepam was the only thing that helped her.

MrsBaileyIsNotHome · 30/08/2021 19:08

OP if you Text SHOUT to 85258 someone from Samaritans will text you so you don’t even have to talk to someone verbally if you don’t want.

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Lovelovelove74 · 30/08/2021 19:29

I don't have anyone and I couldn't go anyway. I asked for sedation to get me there and she said basically said hardly

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Lovelovelove74 · 30/08/2021 19:31

Ice called as many people as its possible to
. Even equality advisory who gave me a number of a solicitor as they 7 said its a form of torture to live this way.. They took details, said they didn't think they could help and would call me. They didn't call. No one can help

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NeverHomeAlone · 30/08/2021 20:33

How are you OP? Have you got in touch with anyone?

I'm a dental clinician and there options around sedation and anesthesia for you. Have you tried ringing the our of hours doctor? They could give you something for the pain and for the anxiety.

Help is out there, you need to be persistent. My best friend has anxiety and has valium for acute episodes. Sometimes it takes Drs a little while to find out what works best for you, please don't give up.

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Lovelovelove74 · 30/08/2021 20:49

Hi, i haven't. I am OK at the moment. Someone suggested vanilla essence and it's amazing. For now. Problem is I need sedation to even get there. No local dentists do sedation either. I'd have to go even further afield.. Community dentist said I'd need 3 visits if I wanted sedation. Realistically I need one and done

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NeverHomeAlone · 30/08/2021 20:55

It sounds like it would maybe be worth travelling farther afield for, if it's impacting you to this degree?

Could a GP not prescribe you a sedative to attend appointments?

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Lovelovelove74 · 30/08/2021 20:56

She said they wouldn't get involved and to ask my dentist

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NeverHomeAlone · 30/08/2021 20:58

Hmmm....you could try your dentist, but I would also try a different GP.

extremelybumpy · 31/08/2021 16:32

Do you need sedation for the actual procedure or just to get to the dentist? Are you under the special care community dentist? They can visit patients at home and carry out some treatments at home. Even if you need sedation, which obviously can't be carried out at home, for the procedure the dentist can do the examination and take a history etc. at home so you only have to go to the dentist once for the actual procedure.

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