2 years on and it still doesnt feel right in the 'down below' regions..help advice needed!

[kutilputil]

hi, its been 2 years since i had my ds and i feel my both passages are still messed up.I had a normal delivery but with a large tear and obviously stitches and ever since there has been one problem after another.well actually since ds was about 5 months.My vaginal passage (sorry to be so blunt but i need the help)just feels wide open and puffy and i have recently had serious recurring thrush. I cant remember the last time i had sex as the interest has completely faded, although i do love my husband, i just dont have the urge and find the whole process boring and totally un arousing. And as for the back passage, well since ds was 5 months till NOW i have not had a normal bowel movement.first i had terrible fisser(dont know the spelling)and the pain would make me sit forward whilst driving and cry myself to sleep at night.It not so bad now but im never in the clear and always have a cut there and it really hurts.I'm rarely constipated but suffer from bout of diorrehea and even then its painful.i've tried all sorts of medicine and have now resorted to the vaseline, which does ease the pain but i'm just not happythe sickest part is when i go for a number 2 the stuff doesnt come out all by it self, it feels like its stuck near the end and i can feel the bit where i had the stiches bulge up and only pressing this up clears the clog!!!oh god i cant believe i'm being so graffic...pls pls pls excuse me....so sorry...but i need your advice...or even just to hear that there are others out there with similar problem...my diet is fine, although i rarely get any ecersise but am just slighly over weight....cant see any other issues that might affect this.pls help{blush]

Have you been to your GP? It sounds like you need a referral to a gynaecologist.

The problems with your back passage are absolutely classic signs of a rectal prolapse (or "rectocele") - you can find loads of info about these online. I have a bladder prolapse and also have to push my bladder up to empty it completely. GPs are not great at diagnosing prolapses - two of them couldn't see I had one, but I kept pushing and got a gynae referral where they diagnosed it.

I also felt things weren't right at the front, but was told "this is just how people are after an episiotomy". Things aren't too bad for me though, so you really need to get a gynaecologist to examine you there as well.

The rectocele, if you have one, is easily fixed with surgery.

I know these problems are so devastating to your self esteem and sex drive. It helps me that I tell myself that men are very fond of women's bits in all shapes and sizes and it would take a LOT to put them off .

I would definitely go to GP and push for a referral, as you would have to wait a while, you should get into the system.

Definitely get a referral to a gynaecologist. The gynaecologist will have seen it lots of times before and will be able to help you. My mum ripped extremely badly with my brother's birth (large baby born v quickly) and didn't say anything. Over 25 years later, she has just had a vaginal repair - they are doing these repairs all the time so don't be embarassed.

If it helps at all kp, I have the same problem with my bowel movements. I've been too embarrassed to go to my GP but you may have spurred me into action - please do the same...

don't know how to post thread links, but we have an anal fissure thread:

anal pain since childbirth..breastfeeding stopping healing?

if you want to come on and talk/listen about painful bowel problems. you are not alone! i have had a fissure for a year, and others have had them since childbirth too, with various problems. for me, ive only just managed penetrative sex - vaginally i mean! - afterwards cos of the pain, i think caused by my episiotomy. it sounds like you have a prolapse or rectocele (sp?) too.
go and describe your symptoms to a doctor, and be firm and assertive and as clear as you have here.
and feel free to join our thread, its been really supportive and helpful for some of us just to be able to share our experiences.

hankyou all for this advice, i guess it is off to the GP for me as i feel i have no idea or control of the situation...and my sex life is non existent and this has put immense pressures on my married life!thanks again

hi, just checked online for info on this rectocele and i have found so much info i'm baffled!also astound at the fact that this is an actual recognised problem and i'm not just making it up...all the symptoms are the same and i wanna thankyou all again for ponting me in the right direction...i feel like crying..thankyou, i will see GP tommorow.thankyou