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so, went to docs, what do you think of this then?

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deenymcqueenygoreandguts · 20/11/2007 13:08

my dilema:
we decided to have anutha beast.
hm, yes excited etc etc etc..BUT

folic acid
blah blah blah.

am doing all this good stuff but was on citalopram.
stopped it about 2 weeks ago, been defo "mentally ill", not off rails, but ill none the less.

went to docs, told him this.

citalo NOT recommended when trying to concieve or in pregnancy.

decided that "mad" episodes could be withdrawl, could be depression back...chicken/egg/chicken/egg???

so going to wait another couple of weeks OFF tabs, see how i am.

am 37, doc said that i am LESs likely to concieve, if i do i have big chance of m/c.

know all that but think he wanted me to stay on tabs, not try for anutha beast. Got that impression.
not at all positive was he.
so,what would you do in my weight watcher leggings?

am i bieng too risky?

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loopylou6 · 20/11/2007 13:19

hmm tough one, suppose it depends on how much u want "anutha beast" (lol) are u in the best state of mind to cope with possible miscarrages or other problems etc? i think u just have to weigh up all the pro's and con's and be truthful with yourself about problems u may face, sorry not much use i know

lulumama · 20/11/2007 13:21

you really make me laugh.... sorry, i know it is serious, but you do !

if is was in your leggings:

i would get a second opinion

your doc is possibly right that at 37 it might be harder to conceive, but it is not impossible

i would find out about tablets safe for pregnancy and breastfeeding, and go from there

as i said on a different thread of yours, a sudden stop in taking ADs will not help your state of mind.

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deenymcqueenygoreandguts · 20/11/2007 13:36

welll, apparently, two weeks is the time that withdrawl symptoms should fade out, so here goes. i think i shall be back to ME in the next couple of weeks as ive been off them for over 2 weeks now.

and i knoew some one would tell me about bieng 37 and babies, i happen to be a very young Kate moss look alike 37 year old, who just happens to have saggy nellies and need weight watchers from time to time.

am a springy chicky actually.

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deenymcqueenygoreandguts · 20/11/2007 13:37

LOL, lulu,
yuo as fed up of this as me!
im getting on my own nerves with it all now, never mind yours.!!!!

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lulumama · 20/11/2007 13:42

not fed up at all, i came off ADs to conceive a a baby, but it took me almost 4 months ! i know what it;s like..

are you a namechanger? i feel like i 'know' you.......

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deenymcqueenygoreandguts · 20/11/2007 13:53

was Dissle & Donbean, they were too normal, deeny feels more mentally ill so more suitable. LOL

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deenymcqueenygoreandguts · 20/11/2007 13:54

and i dont know how to change my haloween name , cant be bothered too busy bieng crackers psycho to be botheres tbh

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PrettyCandles · 20/11/2007 14:01

Definitely get a second opinion and look into alternatives to Citalopram. The 37yo thing is a red herring. Yes, you're less likely to conceive quickly and more likely to mc than at, say, 27, but it doesn't mean that you will. I was 36 when I conceived dd on the first attempt, and I'm sure you'll hear other similar stories here on MN.

lulumama · 20/11/2007 14:02

oh yes....

good name though ! certianly suits you , in the nicest possible way !

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deenymcqueenygoreandguts · 20/11/2007 14:04

i know, was 33 when had my 1st. has 2 m/cs prior to that so i know more than any one that its not straight forward and to expect the worst.

my bf has just had her 2nd ans she is 42, so it can be done.

iam kate moss in rl...judge for yourself if i look nearly 40 37.

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kaylasmum · 20/11/2007 15:12

Hi, i'm also on citalopram and have been for the last 3 years. I fell PG with my ds while i was on them and when i went to my gp she told me to cut down to 10 mg and then try to come off them, then she told me not to cut down as the consultant said it would be more risky to cut down/stop them than it would to continue with them. So i took them all through my pregnancy and while breastfeeding. Though i suppose if i'd gone to the doctors when i was TTC i might have been advised to come off them. I'm really wanting to come off them now but i've been experiencing anxiety and some PND symptoms again so am going to wait for a while.

I was 37 when i had my 4th child and she was conceived within 2 months although i did have a m/c previous to that, but saying that i had 2 m/cs when i was 24 so not too sure about the age thing. I had my 5th child 10 months ago at 40. Took 8 months to conceive him. I think that if your sure that you want another then you should'nt worry about other peoples negative reactions, i had many of those while PG with my last. Lost count of the amount of people that said to me "are you mad" or "are'nt you too old for that carry-on?". It made me mad but its my life and nobody else business.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

ConnorTraceptive · 20/11/2007 15:25

Not sure about the conceiving part but I took citalopram and came off it VERY slowly over three months and I still had side effects. I fell pregnant quite quickly after stopping them and have had a bit of a dip in my mood which I don't know is down to PND returning or pregnancy hormones.

So I guess my advice would be to wait until you know you are on an even keel mentally speaking before falling pregnant.

coby · 20/11/2007 15:55

Been in similar leggings myself

How gradually did you come off the citalopram? I came off it (20mg)to conceive my thrid monster but I came off it very quickly over a 3 week period. I went totally loopy for a while and had very bad withdrawl symptoms- I think it lasted about a month or so.

My Psych said I would be OK to come off it (gradually) to conceive as my depression had cleared totally during my last two pregnancies. Unfortunately this time it hasn't happened that way and I'm pretty low at times. I know people do take Citalopram during pregnancy and breastfeeding and there is some recent research to suggest this is safe. Problem is finding a doctor who agrees to prescribe it if that is what you want.

If I were you, I'd give it a go and try for another. My philosophy is that depression and anxiety has taken so much away from me already, I'm not going to let it take away the baby I think I have waiting for me somewhere(!) You can always go back on the citalopram as soon as you stop bfeeding. I'm looking forward to taking mine again but I wouldn't have let the opportunity of having little 'nugget' pass me by.

Why does your Doc hink you have a big chance of M/C? My doc told me there was no rush to have another as at 31 I have a good 10 years left to have one . TTC can be stressful and if you find it too much you can just go back to the ADs surely

Of course, you have to decide what is best for you, but, so far, I have few regrets at all with the decision I have made (the only problem has been I am more short tempered with my other 2 monsters and that is probably due to the depression and not the pg hormones).

hope that helps. Good luck

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deenymcqueenygoreandguts · 20/11/2007 20:16

ahh Coby, you wonderful wonderful lady. You have said it beautifully and just made me KNOW that i am absolutley doing the right thing...

"depression and anxiety has taken so much away from me already, im not going to let it take away the baby i think have waiting for me some where"

you wonderful lady, thankyou so much for that, thankyou.

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coby · 21/11/2007 12:50

Ooohhhh you've made me feel all warm inside I never feel I say the right thing anymore (got something to do with two going through the terrible twos)so your message makes a very welcome change

Good luck with whatever you choose to do - will be looking out for your posts to see how you get on

jangly · 21/11/2007 12:58

I would definitely say go for the third baby. You'll only regret it later if you don't. You are bound to be having some withdrawal symptons at the moment but these will go and being pregnant will probably help to keep the depression at bay. I think you can take fluoxetine, similar to citalopram, when you are pregnant and breastfeeding, if it did turn out to be necessary. Can't see what being 37 has to do with anything. I had my third at 39 and everything was fine. Easiest pregnancy of the three!

PrettyCandles · 21/11/2007 21:28

You've hit the nail on the head, Coby.

Because of the PND I suffered after my first child, I was advised to leave a big gap before having any more children. But the depression made it feel like we were putting both of our lives on hold (dh and me, I mean), just treading water rather than moving forward. Waiting to get well - which might never happen. So we decided to go ahead with TTC no2. For us it was the right decision. It was a very positive step in our lives, taking control ourselves, rather than being subject to the control of the PND.

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