DP has diarrohea yet again - he gets a bout every couple of months: why?

[MaeBee]

my DP has yet again got diarrohea...he's pretending to me he hasn't so i don't nag him to go to the doctors, but its a hard one to hide with such frequent long toilet trips!

he seems to get a bout every two months at least. i don't think thats normal! he never used to either. his mother has Crohn's Disease which puts him at high risk of suffering too i think.

he gets abdominal cramps too, and its severity seems to fluctuate, sometimes he can't eat at all, today eats fine just lots of shitting! (sorry for TMI, its something my dp won't even discuss with me so he would probably be furious to know i was discussing it with strangers)

any thoughts?

I was going to say Crohn's disease when opened thread

its not something hes eating?maybe intolerance?

Could be anything! Crohns, coeliac, food intolerance, and the dreaded cancer.

Better get it checked. Make him face up to whatever it is. It's not worth hiding his face in the sand, so to speak.

yes, would love to make him deal with it but don't know how. so far this week i've yet again had to cancel things but today im off walking up a mountain and i just refuse to cancel anything else. im only ever ill when i have a hangover and i dont get time off childcare for that!
maybe i should post this in Am I Being Unreasonable, but basically, im just so sick and resentful of him being ill and not doing anything about it! we are meant to be doing 50 50 childcare, and i get bored covering his turn. also, this week ive cancelled one cinema outing, but he has had a couple of outings he hasn't cancelled, and is playing a gig tomorrow. so Am I Being Unreasonable to say he has to do his duty today and i get to go on a walk up a mountain? it feels a bit mean of me, cos he's suffering, but if he refuses to get it sorted isn't it the same as being self-inflicted, like a hangover?!
and, obviously, aside from all the annoyance, im genuinely worried.

My dh had bowel problems that did turn out to be cancer. He is fine now but it took an awful lot of nagging to get him to go to GP. Don't give up. My dh was ok cause they caught it before it had spread so it's a good job he went when he did. I'm not wishing to worry you and my dh's symptoms weren't just diarrohea but I know how easy it is to become resentful when there ill but refuse to do anything about it. My dh opted out of life basically and left everything to me - housework, finances, garden, children, shopping, etc,etc. Then I felt really guilty for being angry about it because he has been so ill. I'm not saying I think he has cancer,there are loads of things it could be - crohns, ibs,colitus, allergy, intolerance, something he's eaten or maybe stress. But all can be treated if he goes to gp. What is it about men and doctors? Why would they rather suffer than go and get checked out?

Maebee, you sound really fed up and I feel for you. How awful. Men are so annoying, aren't they? Whenever my husband has to look after the kids (6,5 2) he takes them to his mothers!

This may sound back-handed, but could you just make him an appointment at your GP's? If you can't communicate your relationship will really suffer and you will both resent each other. I know it's hard to sit down and talk about how you feel. Could you put it in writing? I have tried this and it's effective.

Maybe stress related? I get Irritable bowel syndrome when I am excited Ha ha lovely stuff bu it helps with weight loss!