Just diagnosed with breast cancer

[DuckingCancer]

I'm 28. It's Grade 2, oestrogen positive and small. An ultrasound showed it isn't in my lymph nodes under my arm. Any one had any similar experiences? I'm shocked and don't find out how more info regarding stage etc until next week. I'm in complete shock. I'm trying not to Google but it anyone has any similar experiences I would like to hear them. I have 2 children and it's swirling round my brain.

Goodness OP, that does seem young. I can understand why you are so shocked. I have no experience of this but just wanted to wish you well.

I have no experience of this, but I just wanted to tell you I wish you well. From what you said it looks like the cancer hasn't progressed yet and you've got good chances of beating this 🌹

I have three friends, all diagnosed young. All have gone on to live probably healthier, happier lives. I wish that for you. This is perhaps the hardest part you are dealing with. You sound very positive. Just try to keep that up however you can. Sorry you are facing this.

I had this 18 years ago I had 2 DC under 2 both are grown now.
Your chances are good and treatment as improved since my time.

I have a couple of friends who had breast cancer in their twenties. We’re all in our forties now and they are doing great. Sorry this has happened to you, I wish you much strength during this shitty time, you’ll get through it and out the other side.

I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago now - had surgery to remove the lump then chemotherapy then radiotherapy. I now take daily hormone tablets and I get a monthly injection to reduce oestrogen. The waiting in between being diagnosed and treatment was the worst part for me. My head was all over the place. Try to keep busy and keep your mind off it but easier said than done I know. Feel free to PM me if you like x

Thank you all. I thought I would be much more upset than I am. I'm still waiting for it to feel real I suppose. They have scanned my lymph nodes but how do they know it's not gone anywhere else. They didn't give me an MRI or anything.

@Narcos

I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago now - had surgery to remove the lump then chemotherapy then radiotherapy. I now take daily hormone tablets and I get a monthly injection to reduce oestrogen. The waiting in between being diagnosed and treatment was the worst part for me. My head was all over the place. Try to keep busy and keep your mind off it but easier said than done I know. Feel free to PM me if you like x

Thank you. . I am glad to hear that you are doing well now.

I didn't get an MRI either - they could see from the ultrasound that my nodes looked clear but also did a sentinel node biopsy when I had my surgery. They remove the primary node to confirm as that is where it would go first.

A family member has just been diagnosed. Same age along with my DMIL
MIL had Oo already and is feeling ok. Bit uncomfortable but ok.
A friend who's 50 had it about 10 years back and is perfectly fine now.
Good luck

I’m sorry to hear your news OP. Like others have said, you just need to keep busy and try not to think too much. One day at a time and a great positive outlook will totally see you through this worrying time.

I have had chest pain well more of a chest niggle on the other side for months too and now today I'm struggling with what if that's the cancer that has spread thoughts. I want to keep busy and positive. But I feel like I'm in a bad dream

The waiting is the worst. Once you know exactly what you're dealing with you have something to focus on. I have recently had treatment for breast cancer. Everything I was told at my first appointment before biopsy results was correct. I had an ultrasound for lymph nodes. I believe the doctors know what they are looking at, they are dealing with this all the time. Mine was small, no lymph nodes involved, oestrogen positive, her2 negative. I had a lumpectomy and sentinel node removal 5 weeks ago and am now on Tamoxifen and will start radiotherapy next week. I was lucky that I did not need chemotherapy. The treatment I have received has been swift and efficient. I cannot praise the NHS enough. Be prepared for the amount of info you will be given all backed up with leaflets, booklets etc. If you can have somebody with you at the appointment next week then do. You will need them to remember things for you afterwards although you will also be given a number for the breast care nurses who you can contact at any time. Try and remain positive, breast cancer treatment is so successful these days. I wish you lots of luck.

Thank you. Good luck with your radiotherapy @steppingcarefully I hope all of your treatment goes well. I suppose I am having major trust issues with the Doctors because they really didn't expect it to be cancer at all. I was told before biopsy not to worry basically. Do you feel like they roughly know what stage you will be before surgery or is it only after? They scanned my lymph nodes which were clear but I know that can't be 100%.

I'm worried about how long it will be between diagnosis and surgery. It's my son's birthday mid May and I am desperate to be well enough to enjoy it and make it special for him.

I am in awe of everyone who has gone through a cancer diagnosis without crumpling. I could never imagine how much strength this would take and I'm only at the beginning. I'm looking at my 8 and 4 year old wondering how the hell I'm going to do it.

Have you found the on going cancer support thread? You may find it helpful. This is the current one:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/4181702-Cancer-Support-thread-78-Newbies-welcome

@DuckingCancer

Thank you. Good luck with your radiotherapy *@steppingcarefully* I hope all of your treatment goes well. I suppose I am having major trust issues with the Doctors because they really didn't expect it to be cancer at all. I was told before biopsy not to worry basically. Do you feel like they roughly know what stage you will be before surgery or is it only after? They scanned my lymph nodes which were clear but I know that can't be 100%.

I'm worried about how long it will be between diagnosis and surgery. It's my son's birthday mid May and I am desperate to be well enough to enjoy it and make it special for him.

I felt confident that they knew what they were dealing with before surgery but I was told by the surgeon that the outcome could be different after surgery, they cannot tell 100% until they remove the tumour and lymph nodes. I truly believe they can be fairly accurate though. My surgery was 3 weeks after my results appointment. I really feel for you going through this at such a young age with young children but you can do it. Do you have family and friends for support? Would you consider something like Homestart? www.home-start.org.uk/disability-and-illness A friend of mine has been supporting someone with breast cancer with a young family as a volunteer.

@DuckingCancer

I am in awe of everyone who has gone through a cancer diagnosis without crumpling. I could never imagine how much strength this would take and I'm only at the beginning. I'm looking at my 8 and 4 year old wondering how the hell I'm going to do it.

This is just about the hardest part OP. I can pretty much promise you that you will feel a lot more in control once you know more about what’s going on and (in particular) what the plan is. Come to the cancer support thread

I second what @Lucywarlowsrighthand says, the waiting really is the hardest part.

Oh I'm So sorry to hear that. Please look up Coppafeel. You'll find friends there.