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My mum scheduled for a lumpectomy and then radiation therapy - need some advice and info, please

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NeedingInfoPlease · 10/11/2007 18:07

I'm a regular, but namechanged because I have family members that post on here and Mum hasn't told the rest of the family yet.

She had a mammogram that revealed some spots, and a subsequent biopsy has shown up some precancerous cells. She's booked in for a lumpectomy next week (surely that can't be the operation's real name) and has been told to convalesce for 3 weeks. She will then have 3 weeks of radiation therapy in January, although apparently no drugs will be necessary.

So I have a couple of questions/concerns, I'd be grateful if anyone with experience of this could help me out.

1). Although the doctors have suggested 3 weeks off work after the op, she is planning on only taking one. I think this is utterly nuts, and that she will be in pain and very tired still. She seems to be treating it all as a rather minor procedure, although she has refused to come and stay with us for that week, as she says she will need fulltime looking after, and I have the DCs to contend with. I think she is rushing things going back to work after only a week.

2). What does radiation therapy actually comprise?

3). She is planning - I can hardly believe this - on going for her RT in the afternoons and working in the morning. DH says his father found his RT absolutely exhausting, but my mum contends that my FIL's cancer was more advanced (true, but I am almost positive the effects of the therapy will be similar).

Am I right in thinking that she should really be taking those 3 weeks off? and will she need collecting from the hospital afterwards? Ideally I'd prefer her to have the RT at a BUPA hospital near me, so she can stay with us and I can drive her around.

If anyone has experience of this procedure, I'd be interested in hearing how you felt (physically and mentally) afterwards, so I know how best to help my mum).

Thanks in advance.

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lomond · 10/11/2007 20:17

Hi, I am so sorry to hear that. I don't really have much experience with cancer except with my grandfather and his was very advanced lung cancer when it was diagnosed.

Hope someone with more knowledge can help you so bumping for you.

wrinklytum · 10/11/2007 20:22

Hi Lomond.

Try "Cancerbackup" website for advice and info on radiotherapy.

It is a reputable site and also has a freephone number.

wrinklytum · 10/11/2007 20:22

Sorry,meant hi needing info!!!

onlyjoking9329 · 10/11/2007 22:46

My Dh yesterday finished his six weeks of radio and chemo and he is wiped out, i think it might be best to be on standby for your mum as she may think she will be ok with the op and the treatment but it is draining and not just in a physical sense. the oncology units are difficult places to be and i am sure it would be nice for your mum to have someone with her, plus if you go with her you will feel that you are helping as this stuff can leave you feeling powerless it helped he that i was able to take DH evry day.
good luck to your mum and you too

FlossALump · 10/11/2007 22:59

I think everybody copes with things differently and finds the surgery/treatment different. My mum had a mastectomy (slightly bigger op) and axillary node clearance. She was off work for a couple of months and felt totally shattered. She struggled for sometime, but then other events in our family had taken a big toll on her too. A friend of a friend had a lumpectomy recently and felt fab two weeks later - everyon is different. A week off work to me doesn't sound enough. And working with radiotherapy dubious, but not impossible. A colleague of mine managed to hold down her full time job, doing 14.5 hr days having her chemo (which ime has a much bigger impact) on her days off. It was her coping mechanism. Voice your thoughts to your mum and make sure she knows you are wanting to help and support, but if I were you I would let her find and take the experience she has and deal with it as she feels able and fit. Easier said than done I know.

I hope she has a swift and full recovery.

onlyjoking9329 · 11/11/2007 15:15

we met lots of women with breast cancer in the six weeks we were going to the oncology unit.one lady came alone most days and had to catch 2 buses each way and she coped ok, but others that were wiped out after theirtreatment

NeedingInfoPlease · 12/11/2007 10:25

Thank you all. I think I will get her to look at that Cancer Backup site, it was very informative. And I shall nag her to come and stay with us!

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