2nd Opinion Needed Please- am I really not allowed any sex at all?

[glammama]

At my 22 week scan on the 31st October the sonographer discovered that my placenta is anterior low (major). I have a retroverted uterus and baby is low but the placenta is above baby and not causing any problems. I have been rebooked for a scan at 36/40 to see if I need a section.
I don't understand why suddenly I'm not allowed even a teeny bit of gentle penetration. I asked Dr who told me this at a/n clinic who said there was a risk of bleeding but so far everything has been fine. At 12 weeks I had a spot of light bleeding which lasted about 30 mins and was down to cervical erosion.
Obviously health of baby come before my needs but do I really have to abstain? It's such a long time till March/April! We have abstained for 6 days and I can see that we will soon run out of innovative alternatives. Any advice gratefully received.
Thanks, G.

I would talk to your midwife, tbh. And work on your innovative alternatives. I'm assuming it's pressure on the cervix, rather than orgasm, that's the problem? Maybe sticking to positions that don't involve deep penetration?

That being said, I'd be very careful ...

I should have also mentioned that this is my 2nd pregnancy and my first was problem free, even though I was obviously retroverted then and had a normal if somewhat long vaginal birth with no interventions.

I had bleeding with first pregnancy and was told to abstain from 24 weeks. We did and just had to be inventive!!! As you say health of baby comes first.

Thank you NotQuiteCockney. We have been very gentle and only , ahem, advancing a little bit inside but now DP is too freaked as he didn't like the idea of knocking on baby's door anyway! I don't have a midwife appointment till the end of the month so I might just have to go and stock up on a gallon of Play!

I can understand your DH wanting to be cautious. And of course you can start penetrative sex with the intention of not penetrating too deeply, only to lose track of that intention in the heat of the moment.

That was a long time nimnom!! I do pride myself on having a wide range of activities anyway but it needs extending! I guess it's like anything, if you can't have it you just want it more.

Indeed, NQC!