Waking up in the morning feeling nauseous

[wearingmymask]

Note: I don't live in the UK, and we're no longer under lockdown. Visiting is allowed :)

I've started staying over at my partner's place on the weekend (relatively new relationship), but on three separate occasions I have woken up early the next morning feeling really sick. Twice I was dizzy and shaking too.
I've either left quickly (and felt better once home), or went out for a long walk/fresh air and felt better after a bit (although lingering headache). Gone back to his place later and been fine.

What could it be? I've been googling carbon monoxide poisoning etc but not finding anything that makes you feel sick as the primary symptom.
He feels really guilty, has started burning candles in case it's a smell (there is no smell), moved his plants outside...

:( I don't know how to fix this, but it's not nice.
Please, any ideas please!

Could you be pregnant?

Definitely not the first or second time this happened (we hadn't actually slept together by then).

And just to be clear this has happened three mornings, when I've stayed over at his place maybe ten nights or so (all weekends). And it hasn't happened any mornings I've been at my home.

It's so strange.

Carbon monoxide was my first thought after pregnant but I assumed you'd have checked that one first!

What do you eat/drink there? Could it be a reaction to something you have the night before ie milk in a brew or something?

Is his place mouldy or damp? Does he have bright lighting? (That can cause migraine symptoms for me for example).

It is very odd indeed! Could he maybe stay at your place instead?

Lots of suggestions - thank you!

Carbon Monoxide - I've not actually checked, am going to try to get a meter. The place has a gas cooker, but it's rarely used.

Eat/drink - I'm going to have a deeper think about this. I don't think there is anything consistent between the three times. I drink milk in tea there, but I do that on other days too when it doesn't affect me??

Not mouldy (that I can see) or damp. The climate here means it's more likely to be very humid than anything else. After the first instance we started opening all the windows while I'm there (again, I'm not in UK, so this is possible at the moment!)
Maybe they could be migraines. I do get bad migraines, but I don't usually feel like this with them (usually more pain, and less nausea).

Maybe I'll get him to stay at my place instead :) It's not a long term solution but would be a short-term one at least.

Anxiety?

Is it possible to be subconsciously anxious?
I don't feel anxious while I'm there. (any more. First time maybe could have been anxiety.)

I have been struggling to juggle seeing my boyfriend as much as he'd like to see me, with working long enough hours and also keeping up with commitments to friends. Usually I'm a workaholic; there is always more to do; and normally I work very late 2 or 3 nights a week, and one weekend in two to keep up. I have been feeling a bit panicky that I've not done that the last month or two...
Maybe that's something to think about. Thanks @Dontsayyouloveme

Definitely keep a food/drink/sleep diary. Is his place well-ventilated?

Are you drinking tap water at his but not yours?

I'd have thought scented candles/air fresheners would make it worse rather than better.

wearingmymask I wonder if it’s because you’re waking up at his, knowing there’s so much other stuff you could be doing at home?

Just a suggestion and worth bearing it in mind.. ☺️

Are you drinking alcohol the weekend nights? It sounds like dehydration or low blood sugar.
Do you go on long walks the weekend day before it happens? It could be dehydration. Does he have central heating that comes on in the room. If the heat is on and its a small unventilated room its easy to wake up feeling unwell.

Why have you discounted pregnant?

@Palavah We've started having lots of windows open so it is now better ventilated. I will make sure it is well ventilated.
I agree re the scented candles but he insists and seems to think it is smell related :(
No drinking of tap water anywhere in this country :)

@Dontsayyouloveme Honestly, I don't wake up feeling worried or stressed about needing to be at home.

@sadie9 It definitely could be dehydration, that's actually possible considering how much we've been out and about the day before. Hmm. And yet I never feel sick when dehydrated at home.
No heating. Not needed here :)

@rattlemehearties I discounted pregnant because we hadn't actually slept together yet the first two times it happened (and I hadn't been in a relationship for years prior). Also I'm on the pill (although I know that's not 100% effective). But I could take a test to be sure.

Thanks for all the suggestions, honestly they've helped! I was hoping there might be one 'environmental' reason I could easily solve, but it doesn't sound like it.

Ok. An update. It happened again :(

I am definitely not pregnant (took a test).
I've been drinking more water, but I think I need to drink more at night.

I just don't know how we can be together if I can't stay at his :(

I will get him to come and stay at mine sometimes, and hopefully that will be ok (maybe I will be more comfortable at mine??), but it's not possible for various work reasons during the week. He needs to be at his.
sigh

Any other ideas welcome, but I just wanted to update because I am so frustrated.

What water do you drink? If bottled, where has it been kept? If from a cooler/filter, when was the last time it was cleaned?

Different cleaning products? Bleachy ones give me a headache.

I would be a bit suspicious about the insistence on the scented candles etc. Ask him for a trial of no scented candles or air fresheners or anything of that ilk for 24 hours before you arrive, and during.

Are you able to ventilate by opening a window?

Oh, definitely check the gas.

Are you drinking more alcohol when you’re with him the night before? I get those symptoms with a hangover. What about spicy or fatty foods before bed eg takeaways?

How old are you? I felt nauseous in the morning when I started going through the menopause.

Remove the scented candles. If there is a smell that needs covering up you may as well find out about it. Why does he insist on the candles.
I have an allergy to tiger lillies which make
give me headaches and nausea and a heavy head feeling. Are there flowers or a plant in your partner's bedroom?

It does sound like it could be carbon monoxide. Definitely get a monitor/check the battery in existing monitor.

I used to get this a lot and discovered it was aspartame (more specifically, Diet Coke). It was life changing when I figured this out!

Please check the carbon monoxide levels before you stay there again

Toxic mattress. One of the symptoms is nausea.

Thanks for the many more answers and suggestions!

@Palavah here we drink bottled water everywhere, so I don't think it's that. Everything is VERY clean. He seems to believe that if one cup of (e.g. washing powder) is recommended, then two or three is better. There are a lot of chemicals used in cleaning. And a lot of bulk-buy chemicals stored. I've tried to talk about this but it's hard. How do you say to someone I think your house is too clean?! lol

All the windows are open (as I say, not in the UK!) whenever I am there, so it's very well ventilated.

@Thebizz I do drink more alcohol, but not every time this has happened. And when I have had a drink, it's been one glass of wine or one drink (not finished). And it doesn't feel like my normal hangovers. But I am wondering if alcohol = dehydration, which links into earlier suggestions.
And we eat a lot more takeaway food (healthy and not so healthy). It could be fatty food. As I do not usually eat any takeaway food at home. Hmm. This is a good thought.

@TartanLassie I really hope it's not the menopause, I am 33. Will google other symptoms.

@sadie9 we removed all plants from the place - put them all outside :)
I have some candles at home (fewer but still some) so I don't think its the candles.

@thefirstmrsrochester, @YukoandHiro, I will get a CO monitor before I go over again, definitely. Always better to check. Thanks for this suggestion.

@sleepyhead1980 Interesting! It might be linked to junk food (which I don't normally eat at home).

@Nets888 I have not heard of toxic mattress but will definitely research this. It could be that - can you get it from a mattress topper? How do I subtly check out the mattress material without him noticing??

Thank you so much for all these suggestions. So many! and so many things I hadn't thought of.
I am now wondering how to discuss these in a sensitive and kind manner without suggesting that his house is poisoning me....:(

Sorry to jump to this, but you seem to have ruled out most other options... any chance he’s drugging you?

Please, please check for carbon monoxide. Our lovely friends died in their sleep due to a faulty boiler.
Monitors are, as cheap as chips and available at loads of stores.
It's really not one of those things you should be delaying in checking.

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We're allowed to open windows in the UK.