Is anyone out there not constantly EXHAUSTED?

[Lottle]

And if so, what is your secret?

I'm early 30s, work pt, young son. Just looking for any tips to not constantly feel deeply exhausted. I've felt like this for what seems like forever. I'm naturally an evening person but I need to get up early so I don't think that's help. I don't even feel like an early night would fix it.

I also don't know if this is just the way I should expect to feel.

Tips please!
Thank you

@Lemonylemony Commit to getting 7.5-9 hrs a night. Be in bed early early. E.g. after dinner and chores. Wash, do some stretches, read etc. Lights out. If you can't sleep listen to some meditations.

I too could've written this post and find the vitamin D advice interesting. I'll make sure I get some.

I have been so fatigued and tearful for the last week its starting to concern me but I think not getting any fresh air or exercise is not helping.

Following with interest. I’m always tired!

You may need to change your lifestyle and get into the habit of going to bed early every night. Some people swear by this. Not the only thing I could do but as someone who now has a little t of sleep compared to the 5/6 hours I used to get I can say it makes a world of difference.g luck.

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I've read different things about cutting out sugar. It does have some health benefits. All things in moderation.

You don't want to hear this but the only thing that's ever helped me (late 30s, two very young DC) is committing to an early night almost all nights - 9.30pm latest for me now

How do the early night people get everything done?! Do you just completely give up all forms of downtime??

Pretty much @FourForYouGlenCoco - although at the moment I'm on maternity leave so I have down time when my eldest is at nursery and new baby naps.

I work part time so try to get all chores and admin done on those days or at the weekend. I put on a load of washing every morning at breakfast.

DH works shifts so at the moment we do have time to see each other in the mornings as he's still at work when I hit the hay

@Lottle there might be something in the introvert thing. My husband is an introvert and has found lockdown hard for that reason

Low carb. No energy issues at all.

I take vitamins, drink copious amounts of water and haven't eaten sugar in fifteen years. I am still exhausted.

I recognise it is partially seasonal, natures way of recharging. The lockdown and pandemic is really making people feel tired in a way they have never felt before. Levels of stress are very high. Not being able to plan respite or even what we are doing next week can be hard living with so much uncertainty.

My suggestion would be to take a few days off. Have warm baths, long walks, rest up. If you are tired, then respond to that tiredness. Show yourself some compassion and kindness.

four I don't do anything after 7pm - what do you need to do?

All so extreme! Ditch sugar, ditch caffeine and so on

What about starting by being a bit gentle on yourself. So... how do you sleep? If not hit, look at bedtime routine.
If your diet could be improved, look at baby steps. Cut out one sugary snack and replace with... carrots and a dip, or apple and peanut butter. Of caffeine is an issue and too much, start by making your double a single. Or cutting out caffeine after 3pm.

Don’t start extreme. Just gentle and see it as a project.

@FourForYouGlenCoco

How do the early night people get everything done?! Do you just completely give up all forms of downtime??

My children mid and late primary, are in bee 7.30, lights off 8 during the week.

I do a thorough kitchen clean straight after dinner whilst they reading / homework. Then whilst they watch their evening tv programme, I put on robo vac and put away any laundry for the day (I do a wash daily).
Then whilst they in bed for half hour before lights off reading - I do tidy up of lounge.

Say good night to them, flop on sofa for an hours watching tv/surfing. Get ready for bed, in bed 9.30ish, read until 10ish.

So yes... tidy home and down time (which I relish!)

I had a lightbulb moment where i realised i just wasn't giving myself enough time to sleep - that simple! I seem to need a LOT to actually feel rested (about 9 hours!) but it really really works - if I get that much sleep, I wake up refreshed instead of bone crushingly tired.

Thsy key is to start everything early.

So showers before dinner and in pjs, dinner at 5.30pm (always possible now no after school activities!) and go from there.

I’m a single parent so don’t need to factor anyone else in, which helps I suspect

Harder to do with teens as well jrose

On the one hand yes

On they other, a teenager is more self sufficient than a 7 year old. Lot more intensive practical parenting with a 7 year old in the evening than a 14 year old. I need to wash and dry my child’s hair for a start.

I have just ordered my Vit B thanks to the reminders from the above posters. I already take vit D in the winter, when I feel run down And it really helps. A few days of a really high dose 10,000 units daily. Hoping we can recharge over the winter.

I would highly recommend looking into low carb eating. My energy levels are way higher when I eat well. It has to be planned though, otherwise like you, @Lottle I just grab sugary things which make me bloat and feel lethargic (and yet are highly addictive so really hard to control)
Being so fatigued is miserable and I really feel for you. Hope you find the right answer for you :)

The low carb diet is just simple science. If you can eat in such a way that your insulin remains stable then you don’t get the highs and lows associated with erratic blood sugar spikes. It doesn’t have to be extreme at all.