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daughter admitted today - ed

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vacua · 16/10/2007 14:30

I should feel relieved but am devastated, she's on a general ward as really poorly. She's deteriorated rapidly, even since our visit to A&E last week. Thanks for support so far and if anyone has any advice as to how I can best help and keep myself together would really appreciate it. Not sure what to tell her little sister either. Am a total mess actually.

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Sobernow · 16/10/2007 14:32

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tortoiseSHELL · 16/10/2007 14:32

Oh vacua, I'm really sorry to hear this. How do you feel? At least she is getting appropriate help now. I sometimes think with eds, you need to have a crisis like this as it 'validates' the ed - it 'proves' that they are 'ill', and can be a good starting point for recovery.

Keep posting. How old is her sister? xxx

runawayquickly · 16/10/2007 14:33

Oh no, sending you love and strength. Sorry, I don't check in too often and don't know details but just wanted to let you know you're not alone xx

DumbledoresGirl · 16/10/2007 14:33

I am sorry for what you are going through.

(Can anyone enlighten me as to what ed means?)

Tigaaaarghna · 16/10/2007 14:34

eating disorder?

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vacua · 16/10/2007 14:34

She's bulimic, very underweight and lost another kg over the weekend. Dehydrated, v low pulse, body temp, blood pressure etc. I just logged on for a bit of moral support and to sort out work. Wish I could stay with her but is difficult as a lone parent.

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shrooms · 16/10/2007 14:35

Eating disorder. Poor you and poor dd. Many get well wishes being sent your way. We're here if you need us!

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vacua · 16/10/2007 14:35

aw thanks, missed those messages - her sister is 8, she has an older sister of 17 too

I need to pull myself together a bit and go back but thanks x

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geekgirl · 16/10/2007 14:36

eating disorder

I'm so sorry vacua

(have been following your threads - I had AN as a teenager)

I agree with tortoiseshell - I really hope this is a turning point for her - what a terrible situation this must be for you as her mum though

I hope she gets looked after well in hospital. Is there a place in an ED unit lined up for her yet?

princessPUMPKINmel · 16/10/2007 14:36

Oh vacua that is awful . A kg over the weekend is massive

I dont have any background about this but just wanted to post my support.

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DumbledoresGirl · 16/10/2007 14:37

Ah thanks, yes I searched vacua's posts and worked out it was eating disorder.

How very worrying for you. I can only echo what has been said already in that at least now she is in hospital she will be getting the specialist care she needs. Thinking of you.

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vacua · 16/10/2007 14:38

there's one in Cambridge and we'll either be getting support from them or from a home treatment team in Ipswich - it's one step at a time, I guess it depends how well she does?

I feel so upset for her, she is going to hate gaining weight and is really unhappy about it all

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Kewcumber · 16/10/2007 14:38

so sorry to hear about this Vacua, haven't followed your earlier thread but you know she is in the right place now however devastated you are. Hopefully its the beginning of the new start for her.

fruitymum · 16/10/2007 14:41

Hope she gets the help she needs and also that you and the rest of the family get some support during this truly awful time.

princessPUMPKINmel · 16/10/2007 14:43

How old is she?

DoctorFrankenSquonk · 16/10/2007 14:45

sorry to see this vacua

god, I don't know what to say, but I wish your dd all the very best and will be thinking of you all.

tortoiseSHELL · 16/10/2007 14:52

vacua I could be way off the mark here, but I reckon this could be a reaction to NOT being admitted a week or so ago when you went to A&E - it could be that she is craving recognition that she IS ill, and needs treatment, thus validating her ed, as I said earlier down. Which is really positive, as it means she probably would like to have the treatment, which should hopefully mean she will respond better than if she didn't want it. I just wonder if, having NOT been admitted, she wanted to make herself sicker so she WOULD be, iyswim! Either way, I hope this is the beginning of recovery for her.

How is her older sister about it? Is she supportive? Are they close? If so, I reckon that relationship could really help her, as her sister is ALSO a teenager, and can 'understand' (mothers never can you know(!), even my 6 year old ds tells me that!).

lots of love to you all, xxxx

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vacua · 16/10/2007 22:36

I'm holding on to that, it did occur to me too that it was fortuitous in a way that she got worse so quickly. It's so horrible to see her in there though, not horrible to be with her of course but to see the staff putting her in a wheelchair and taking her to the loo etc., it's such a shock although I sort of saw it coming.

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meandmy · 16/10/2007 22:47

hoping she gets well to realise she needs to change, i suffered an ed when i was 14 not it didnt get to the serious state but no one noticed so you must be fab mom to notice wishing you all the best your other dd's probably know in a fashion what is happenening x

SofiaAmes · 16/10/2007 22:57

vacua, my very best friend is a social worker who up until recently specialized in eating disorders. There are lots of new and more effective ways of treating ed's. If you haven't already, do some internet research for the latest studies and theories....just in case your dd's doctors haven't. My understanding is that involving the whole family in the therapy is essential to treatment. Best of luck and lots of hugs to you.

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vacua · 17/10/2007 08:31

Thanks, that's a good idea - she's being treated for hypokalemia (potassium deficiency?) at the moment, is being very compliant so hopefully has given herself a scare. Nobody seems to know how long it will take to get her well enough to come home/go to ed unit. I really want her home.

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