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Desperate Mum require advice

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1legmummy · 13/10/2007 17:52

I am hoping someone reading this will recognise symptoms and be able to help me.

I have an 8 year old Son who is extremely unhappy and comes across as thoughtless and naughty.

He has had quite a few upsets including operation to remove his kidney, his Dad leaving us, me having leg removed, me marrying another man and having a new baby - many would say these are to blame.

He is extremely unhappy at school and when I met his Teacher she said he was @playing the system@ this upset me, I do not think he is, he is just trying to find a way to make his day go quickly.

He gets upset at the slightest thing and tells us his brain hurts if we try to help him understand something.

He is bottom level at everything at school and struggles to do his homework.

He has started to say that he wants to kill himself and that he tries to stop himself being naughty but something takes over.

I have seeen a doctor who is referring to Child Guidance (6 weeks ago) and I have asked the school to organise a hearing test.

Am I being blind? Is there nothing wrong and am I just making exuses for him as everyone tells me I am.

I dont think so, I think there is something wrong but he seems to have symptoms that match with everything I read about.

He is very sad and that makes me sad too.

Does this match anyone elses children?

Any ideas?

Emmax

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Lulumama · 13/10/2007 17:59

bumping for you as no real advice

sounds like he has had a lot of trauma and upheaval and needs some help to get to grips with it all...

i don;t thikn you are being blind, i think 8 year olds lack the emotional skills to deal with this level of life change.

justaboutmurdering · 13/10/2007 18:02

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TwigorTreat · 13/10/2007 18:06

He sounds rather depressed to me to be honest

I can't really help other than say quite categorically

YOU ARE HIS MOTHER .. you know deep down if you are making excuses for him ... are you? (it doesn't sound like you are to me, but I'm outside and just reading one post, it sounds like he's had a lot to deal with which would cause depression in an adult)

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I do think things like 'my brain hurts' are standard child responses to not understanding stuff

I would wonder why he is so unhappy at school? does he have friends there, do friends come home to play? why do teachers think he's playing the system? can school throw any light on the matter .. is there a SEN coordinator you can contact

justaboutmurdering · 13/10/2007 18:07

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1legmummy · 13/10/2007 18:35

Thanks everyone - I wont give up!

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