Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

General health

Mumsnet doesn't verify the qualifications of users. If you have medical concerns, please consult a healthcare professional.

Flip

Original poster

Anyone care to share their (DH's) experience of drug treatment for erectile dysfunction?

13 replies

HardUpForHardOn · 12/10/2007 20:42

Following on from my earlier (much ignored ) thread, I was just wondering if anyone could share their experience of using drugs to help with erectile dysfunction? (Is it childish to snigger after using the correct terminology? )

We know that it won't be viagra that he gets (which apparently only lasts for about 3 hours), but something longer lasting, although we don't know exactly what yet.

The GP knows that we are ttc, so I'm assuming that whatever is prescribed won't have any detrimental side effects, but does anyone know if this is definitely the case?

(I know that there is a thread in the archives on this subject, but that was more about obtaining it from less kosher sources).

Am a regular BTW.

OP posts:

blazingsandals · 12/10/2007 20:50

Blimey, more long lasting than Viagra - what is it Formaldehyde????

Sorry I don't have any useful advice but I'm interested in the responses so I'm camping out here to watch. Have you tried posting in the Mens Room btw?

foxinsocks · 12/10/2007 20:53

you want LONGER than 3 hours?

what do you want to know exactly

Original poster

HardUpForHardOn · 12/10/2007 20:57

lol - the erection doesn't last 3 hours, just the ability to get one when aroused (though I suspect you knew that really!).

I guess I want to know stuff like which drug they used, whether they suffered any side effects, whether it worked as expected, whether they 'lasted' as long as/longer than/not as long as before the problem started, whether anyone managed to conceive whilst using it, and anything else that anyone thinks it is worth knowing.

OP posts:

foxinsocks · 12/10/2007 21:02

wellllllllll (and this wasn't with dh in case he's spying and thinking WHAT is she saying about me)

one of my partners had viagra prescribed

made him very flushed

needed to experiment a LOT with the dose to get it right (I think they advise starting with a third of a pill, then try a half etc.)

I think it's difficult because to be perfectly honest, it is a pain because it takes out the spontaneity. You need to plan when you're going to do it (i.e. if you're in the mood and he hasn't had a forewarning, then it aint going to happen iyswim!).

However, if you're pretty much always up for it and it's a matter of him just taking the pill, then that works.

I think one of the most important things is to be emotionally supportive. It doesn't really matter if they have to take a pill to get it all working but you'll probably have to say it a million times so that he knows you mean it because really, in the end, it doesn't matter and in fact, getting an iron rod instead of a raw sausage is motivation enough to want it to work.

Original poster

HardUpForHardOn · 12/10/2007 21:13

Well the 'when' bit will be taken care of by whenever dh is here (he's away a lot for work) and it's anywhere near ovulation!

Good to be forewarned about getting the dosage right, thanks. Any idea what happens if you take too much?!

We're hoping it's just a temporary problem (poss stress related, but has been a problem for a few months), and I'm certainly trying to be supportive. Pretty sure that dh knows I don't 'blame' him.

OP posts:

foxinsocks · 12/10/2007 21:59

ahh well that's good (the temporary problem)

partner with the issue had a permanent structural issue

I think once he took too much (when getting the dose right) and it make him feel a bit light headed and flushed. He didn't get any of the hard-on all night you read about but it did take a bit longer than normal to go down.

I'm surprised, if it's temporary, that they aren't trying viagra (or are there other health issues)?.

Original poster

HardUpForHardOn · 12/10/2007 22:13

From what dh has said, the reason for no viagra is twofold, but the main one is that GP thinks it removes spontaneity because of having to take it just before, so he is favouring something that you can take in the morning and then forget about. The other reason seemed to be something to do with which suppliers the practice likes to deal with, but obv if that was the best drug for dh then GP would get it in (is dispensing surgery).

Thanks for your help with this pretty personal issue fis. I knew I liked you.

OP posts:

nosecondchild · 13/10/2007 03:33

will be watching this thread with interest - we're in the same boat. dh was prescribed viagra however even taking 2 pills at once didn't work so now we're back to square one. Do you know what your dh is being prescribed?

Original poster

HardUpForHardOn · 14/10/2007 21:11

Oh for you nosecondchild. I didn't realise that it could not work.

We don't know which drug he will get yet, but should find out a week tomorrow, at his next appointment. Add this thread to your watch list and I'll update then.

How long have you had this problem nsc, and do you know a reason for it?

OP posts:

Original poster

HardUpForHardOn · 22/10/2007 15:17

nosecondchild - if you're still reading, dh was prescribed cialis this morning. 4 tablets for £40, so hope it does work!!

We won't get to test it for a while, as he's about to go on another work trip, but he'll be back in time for ovulation next month, so hoping to at least have the two week wait that most ttc'ers expect!!

Haven't had chance to research the drug (or even read the leaflet that comes with it) yet, but will do this evening.

OP posts:

Original poster

HardUpForHardOn · 04/11/2007 15:10

Just another little update to say that we've now managed to test the cialis, and it appears to work . Dh took it early evening yesterday, and everything worked fine both last night and this morning. He did say that he got a few random erections in the swimming pool this morning too though .

I guess the question now is how long he will need them for. GP reckons some of problem is psychological, and that he'll be fine after a couple of goes, but only time will tell I guess.

OP posts:

nosecondchild · 06/11/2007 03:11

HUFHO - glad you've had some good news!

This thread fell off my list - so, to answer your questions from a while ago, this issue has been going on for most of our marriage (10 years) and it appears to be enirely psychological. I think this means that it is unlikely to be resolved as although dh has been talking to someone professionally about the related stress issues it doesn't seem to be making any difference. The fact that the viagra didn't work has just put more pressure on the situation.

We're actually at the point now where we are discussing the option of finally accepting we have a celibate marriage (rather than it just being a celibate marriage IYSWIM) and putting our energies into having a good relationship.

I'm not sure how I feel about it all now, just tired of the situation and thinking about it. I'm glad things are looking up (pun intended!) for you though.

Original poster

HardUpForHardOn · 06/11/2007 20:43

nsc. My dh says that I absolutely must post and explain more clearly the reason why he got cialis and not viagra, as it is related to the psychological nature of the problem. Because Viagra only lasts for 2 or 3 hours, it puts a lot of pressure on the man to perform during that short time span, which just adds to whatever psychological worries he already has.

With the cialis, he can take it in the morning if he wants, and then forget about it. It will keep on working for 24 hrs or more, so there is plenty of opportunity within that to be a bit spontaneous, thus lessening the pressure.

Has your dh tried any drugs other than viagra?

OP posts:

Flip