Hi again
Here's a tip, worth a try. Try and get into the headspace that you're helping a very dear friend that's being shafted by the system.
Then take several photocopies of the specialist's crappy letter.
Then get your pretty highlighters out, and dissect the letter.
Read it calmly have a stiff drink if need be. You've got say 15 copies, the original safely in a poly pocket away from tears, snot, even dare I say it, shit. I'm trying to help you even with black humour. I bit my tongue in half when dd had the problem not to say 'OK, now who can't do anything but shit themselves, eh?' However this isn't about me.
However, imagine in the future seeing the GP, and them having access to a colonoscopy denied. Bet you any money you like hell would've frozen if they'd ever be in that position, and if they did there's probably a charity that'd fund it.
So, not a bad revenge fantasy. Sod fantasy, sod it, I'd do it, but back to business.
Brace yourself
Take a copy of their sodding unprofessional crappy not even worth wiping your arse on letter. I have a toilet roll in the box between the front seats, for cd's other hidden goodies, just in case. For me that's a bog roll. Shrugs. And a box/pack of kandoo-type wipes in the boot, just in case. There may even be a roll of bin bags, you never know when disaster can strike. Public toilets out of paper etc etc
Anyway. You've got a pot of coffee, favourite music, white noise, grounding tape - not relaxation the exact opposite the sound of their voice grates, keeps the nasty shit-provoking adrenaline away, keeps you centred on
What you can see, feel the nice cushion, the favourite pen, taste - a nice glass of wine that you sip from, a square of your favorite chocolate, smell - a squirt of your best/most favourite perfume say on the inside of your wrist of your non-writing hand - then all you need to do, lift your hand to your nose, breathe in the smell from your wrist and your back in grounded space. Then, once you know you can ground yourself put your favorite music on. Focus on hearing using your ears so we've got
Touch - tuck your teddy bear in next to you, keep him/her safe. Just had to rescue mine from a basket above my head from when I changed the bed and forgot him. It's something tactile
A slanket to keep you snuggly if needs be.
A small square of your favorite, but cheap decent chocolate, even lidl/aldi do some really decent ones at about £1.50 for 10 squares. Thin, but means they're cheaper, but they're so good they last ages as you can 4 in a cupboard as you're worth it, to spoil yourself. Let it melt slowly on your tongue whatever helps you feel the sensation of it melting
Taste - sorted drink, choc which does both taste and touch
Hearing - music covered
Smell - done
See - your favourite pen in your hand, also covered by touch
Right that's all 5 senses covered.
If the grounding gets really difficult get a cringe worthy piece of dance music from your youth, close the curtains and have a 5 minute break. Bop around the room like a loony if that floats your boat. It's very physical
Energetic sex works as does
Drumming your feet on the floor as hard as you can - think terrible two's type heel drumming tantrums in fact even that - imagine treading grapes, the bastard GP's testicles that you're crushing to destruction that you've just cut off, wearing rubber gloves, with a rusty razor blade, Olympic speed sprint home, to sit there and drum into smithereens or
The drum solo 'Toad' by Cream, Ginger Baker, as gifted a drummer as Eric Clapton on guitars. Before my time but indoctrinated into DH's musical taste, however it's a classic. Don't know how he wrote it, or ever performed it more than once. He must have been drained from the sheer physical activity
Take you pen, pad of paper, and like decrypting/analysing a job advert to determine all the unspoken requirements to work.
The first part is to determine all the errors even professional misconduct ones. Those are to be put them aside for later. Plenty of time to dob them in to whichever fancy club gets their annual subs. For the moment you want them earning the money they stole from you.
So take your pen and find the first word that hits you circle it, Your first theme, as you read you'll notice others, underline the key word, it's for later. Take a blank copy, write the header 'theme 1 xxx' whatever. Now, 'chain' together all the words that seem to fit this, so there like beads on string like a necklace, bright oblong chunky wooden ones. As if you've got a box and your picking out you favourite beads shape or colour, but not both, to make a necklace. You could even number them in pencil. With the design of the 'necklace' in your head, you can then go to the theme page and trace out your theme word ie circle words in their order as best you can. Phew first one done. Wasn't so bad, take a break, you've earned it.
Then once all done, put it to one side, you've identified your basic facts. Ever done report writing? A tip I had was to take an A3 sheet of paper, write the sections down the side. From memory, each section had similar types of data, just a question of sorting it. I dithered for 3 days. By section? No, by action required? No by how it could be backed up by hard fact? No. My boss let me panic. Eventually the need of the job for this report to be written, overcame his dislike for me and his jealousy that he couldn't have found all the facts.
So, the sections of the report ie themes down the side, the actions required along the top, a column for each action. Slot all the 'facts' into the right row/column. Leave it. Your subsconscience is tunneling away, from when you started. Run a bath using some favourite bubble bath, whatever. When you feel ready. Have a look at the 'grid'. You can't change the action required, it follows on from the fact but, you can if it's a better 'fit' to another section/theme shove it up or down the grid. So, circle it with an arrow showing where it should have been. Use postit notes, cut and paste - that works in an office, you take a copy of version1, keep the original, then literally get the scissors out and cut up the document. There will be some themes unchanged, maybe some actions. Quick slice across, pritt stick, a whole theme, done. Quick slice down, an action, and with each slice of the scissors, each 'cut' literally it's getting better. It's your support document. It's what works best for you. Cut the other squares out, stick them in place. Step back, does it work?
If not take a copy etc etc you're on a roll, original version 2 etc
Very last step, honestly
Order the themes?
Wait for risk to health for the last one it's the sucker punch for the para beginning 'finally, I completely understand that your only concern is the correct diagnosis and appropriate treatment plan in the interest of all your patients and so grateful etc' bollocks. The subtext you and I know you've dropped a bollock, a big one, and, you should be struck off for misconduct and made to pay so much in damages that even your 5th gt grandchildren will be paying it off. They know full, that any indemnity insurance will only pay out if, and only if they' d followed the rules. Well, they might pay once, but never again. They'd have to self-insure, impossible, illegal and unaffordable. It'd be £10k for a 5 min appointment.
So, you've got the opening para please would you clarify the factual errors that you were very surprised to see from such a professional ubderstanding consultant etc In other words, he walks on water, his typist should take the blame for the errors however, there are certain factual errors as detailed below
Slot in your themes in order. Literally, put the most serious one at the bottom, it's the killer punch. Left of the themes, 'tick' off the most important. Write that paragraph. Look again, which is the most important one left, write the paragraph 'tick'. For the moment keep them on separate pieces of paper.
Finally, put the intro grovelling one at the top.
Killer one at the bottom
Others in-between in the order decided.
Break time
Read it through as a letter.
Tweak a word here and there.
Produce final version. Print, handwrite on best paper.
Personally, I like both right and left justified margins. Sometimes the last partial line needs to be left only. Nothing looks worse than 15 spaces between each word, when there are only 3 words in the line.
Page footer on it, I like page 1/n at the bottom right corner, date and document path/filename for my personal approach on a letter/document. I'd be tempted to call the file something like 'letter1' maybe too chancy, implies that you've already written the threatening one to the boys' club setting out the grounds for misconduct claim. Letter there's only 1, letter1 implies there's another waiting. Bit like debt collection, the escalating threat that ends up with the court bailiffs on the doorstep. But in reverse.
Leave it. Sleep on it.
Next day, fold in 3 if not too bulky for a standard envelope. Otherwise buy 1 A4 envelope to keep it flat, 1 B5 white one to fold in half.
Recorded delivery. They know and you know when it was posted. And delivered.
You can always write no 2, after 3 weeks surprised not to have had a reply, but considering.... you'd have thought..... understanding any extenuating circumstances, however you realky need the revised letter for your GP to take the correct action, and you feel it would not be unreasonable to have had a response as it's only a couple of little tweaks to an existing letter. You could even phone saying this. Depends if you can manage not to snort with laughter. Or, if you can do it without getting upset, that you'd really like to go for private diagnostic tests but not practical, but wouldn't hesitate to recommend them to friends/family as appropriate. Not a lie, not diffamatory, all depends what you read into it. ;—)
Any questions please pm me. I mn on the app and have a pending court case, final divorce judgement due in 8 days, and cross-eyed with pain from hip to knee with bursitis. I don't want to take Tramadol waste of time, need a magnétiseur to draw the heat off.
If you pm me, I'll at least get an email and it will keep floating up to the top. And a life-changing meeting next week.
Take care