Hi alexw
You have my sympathies. Have been doing the same as you - hair removal/bleaching - since teens. I've been checked out for PCOS, and don't have it, so the dr has never got the bottom of my hirsutism
However, I manage it by shaving my jaw line (the worst area) every couple of days. I'm told most people don't notice it.
I have also been having IPL (intense pulsed light treatment) for 18 months, and although I'm an ideal 'case' - pale skin and dark hair - it has done very little tbh. The clinic that does it reckons I have some weird underlying hormonal disorder as, at 29, I'm one of their youngest patients and I should be responding. They are going to try IPL and laser at the same time next week, to see if that has a better effect.
From what I understand of PCOS, it can be well managed with a low glycaemic load diet - which may reduce symptoms?
Dianette worked for me years ago, in massively reducing the facial hair; I just didn't want to be on the Pill longterm. Might be worth a go? I also read recently (not in a tabloid!) that a study is being undertaken to establish if there is a link between spearmint and a reduction in hirsutism. Apparently, in a culture somewhere where the women would be expected to be hairy, they are not, and they drink a lot of spearmint tea. Haven't given this a go, but am intrigued.
sillysilly's cream suggestion sounds brilliant! Will ask my dr for that, too.
Good luck. I do feel for you.