sorry if tmi - sex after csection!

[glittercaz]

dear all,

i'm a first time mother and would love some advice on this, embarassing though it is! i gave birth to my son by csection 9 weeks ago..dh and i have had sex i think 3 times since - not a huge amount of energy for it tbh! the first couple of times it felt really quite painful, but more like a friction pain than anything deep. mentioned this to doc at 6 week check and she said perfectly normal as breastfeeding diminishes one's, ahem, natural lubrication, and to use some ky lube to help things along! trouble is, we've done this and i still found it painful...

i'm not sure if we're just out of practice - over pregnancy i was barely up for it at all so perhaps my system is in shock! but i can't help but worry i could have some kind of infection etc - i know i'm very unlikley to be ovulating but i am getting no 'normal' vaginal discharge during the day either - what little is there seems a bit different to before...no offensive odour or anything, but thinner with a very very slight - tmi alert! - sort of chemical smell. nothing shocking but just as i say, a bit different!

at the 6 week check doc did the usual examination and said everything felt normal...i don't know if i'm worrying over nothing and my body is just going through a new thing after birth...be great to hear your thoughts and experiences xxx

9 weeks isn't very long after the section, which is, tbh, a pretty big operation. It takes your body a little while to settle down, and it's perfectly normal to not feel up to much at this point!

I'd take it easy, try to do things other than intercourse, if you're feeling frisky, or at least make sure there's lots of foreplay beforehand.

I had two c-sections with my dc's and it didn't interfere with intercourse tbh, I didn't really have it very much as I was just not in the mood!!

I think if the docs have said it is fine, then it is likely it is.

yeah, am not really expecting to be in the mood much at the mo! but the lack of 'different' discharge thing....does this sound normal...sorry cant do question marks as holding the baby with one arm! xx

sorry, should have read 'lack of/different'

sorry, should have read 'lack of/different'

I would say it's probably nothing unusual BFing does affect things for a while. Is the baby in the room when you're having sex? I found this was putting me off (sub-conciously), and things only felt normal when he wasn't there.

I think I remember my discharge was strange, after the lochia stopped, and until my periods came back. It would make sense, wouldn't it? This wouldn't be just a CS thing, obviously.