Why can’t I fall into a deep sleep???

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Just this really. I feel like my mind just never slows down or switches off, there’s a constant buzz of thoughts in my head. I’m a FTM with a 4mo baby and even when I’m sleep deprived and knackered I can’t just fall properly asleep. I’ll go for hours in a kind of half asleep doze and still feel exhausted when I ‘wake up’. My partner and baby will both be fast asleep either side of me and I’ll just be lying there not completely awake but conscious that I’m also not properly asleep. Can anyone make any suggestions? It’s doing my head in! I have had this before but not continuously, definitely ramped up loads since the baby arrived. I should probably add that I may be on the anxious side as a parent. Today my body feels like lead and my partner has sent me for a nap, and after lying here for over an hour and getting nowhere I just need to ask for some help.

Maybe try the Neal Yard sleep spray? Just a bit on your pillow is quite relaxing.

How do you feel otherwise? It could be mental health, or even thyroid related that you have insomnia? If it’s just the insomnia, have you tried the headspace app?

Try the Neal’s Yard Organic Beauty Sleep Concentrate and the Pillow Spray which are lovely and really help. Also try this: www.sweetbeeholistics.com/products/sweet-sleep

I really recommend Glenn Harold sleep hypnosis apps and Dr Guy Meadows sleep book

Maybe you need support with anxiety? I have it along with depression which began as PND. It's always had a really negative impact on my sleep. The problem is, it's a vicious cycle, you feel anxious so you can't sleep and when you're tired you feel even more anxious. You need to try and break the cycle, be that with medication, alternative approaches, talking therapies. Good luck, hope you can sort it.

O totally get where you coming from OP. I had very difficult babies who work to all the time and a part we who never did nights and not nuch during the day. I suffered from a sure exhaustion yet just could mo switch off and sleep during the day no matter what.

It got getter and then very bad, even worse than what my babies were newborns during the menopause.

The issue is over stimulation and probably over flow of adrenalin. Sadly I think it very much comes down to personality. I do everything fast, always active, and it's part of who I am. The oy way to help us learning to slow down. Meditation really helps. It doesn't change who you are as a person but helps to slow the brain down a bit.

I still don't get enough deep sleep and it does affect my life quite a bit but ultimately, I'm still here and healthy. Many people are the same.

Do you monitor via your Fitbit? How much do you get on average?

For me it is often a shortage of magnesium or iron.

I'd second magnesium actually. It made a tangible impact on the quality of my sleep almost immediately.