STITCHES AND SEX 6 MONTHS ON...ADVICE PLEASE!

[allthegearnoidea]

Hi all,
quite graphic, but I'm sure that won't put hardened m'ners off!
had ds back in Feb and was cut and stitched. Stitiches appeared to have healed, though I can feel the ridge of scarring , though this is small. However during sex I am aware of the scar line and it feels as if it is pulling apart. Anyone else experiencing anything like this, was wondering whether I should see someone or accept that this is how it is? comments/ advice greatly appreciated!

Hi, can I ask if you have only just started having sex again or if this feeling has lasted for a while?

Use lots of lube (saliva is fine). take it gently to start with. If it's uncomfortable enough to put you off, have a word with your GP or midwife. Sometimes the scarring etc will heal and soften (and plenty of practice apparently helps) sometimes some small intervention might be needed.

Basically this is the advice I got given when I moaned about my fanjo feeling a bit funny - thing is, I am single and only have sex now and again. so I can't be bothered to go and get it fixed, but the advice is good IYSWIM

cheers for responses, been having sex since 6 weeks and assumed that it was all just a bit uncomfortable cos i was anxious and still physically healing. sex has been quite regular since. It feel like ther's far more friction thatn before, like they made me smaller!!

madamez- what you mean 'small intervention'? restitching?

been there,think i kno what you mean.i feel a sort of line -longer than it actually is.i just feel it occasionally these days, like madamez said just need lots of lubrication (any sort) and relax,prob unlikely you'll damage anything. as rude as it sounds, someone told me to massage the scar (hmm any excuse)with vaseline and it works

need to do something, i'm worrying about sex and used to look foward to it! thanks for input

I felt like this (was cut & stitched in Feb too) but was only actually painful for a few weeks, now it is fine but we have to go gently (at least to start with!) and it definitely feels tighter, so think that is pretty common. (At the start I did fear my scar was going to rip open, but this feeling got less as time went on and I relaxed more!) Remember that if you are tense it will make it more difficult, perhaps a glass of wine before might help!

Also if you are using lube, and here I speak from experience, do not get the Durex Tingle minty one and slather it everywhere in large amounts, it stings like hell and you'll spend the next half an hour in the shower trying to get the damned stuff off

cheers for the lube advice, had no idea what to get, though that good old KY would do the trick. glad to hear i'm not only one!