Advice needed on ds's tonsillectomony and the op being cancelled/changed

[MamaMaiasaura]

Can someone give me some advice please. Ds was due to have tonsils and adeniods done on 25th Sept got a phone call an hour ago to cancel it due to no anetheatist (sp). Really cross as ds(7) has built himself up for it and also we have arranged time off, changed antenatal, arranged for exp not to have ds for his weekend and to come over and see ds.

They have now called with the date of 2nd October, so a week later. Thing is his normal dad weekend is on the 29th and 30th. HE smokes in the car with ds, keeps him up a bit later and goes out and about with him. If ds catches cold or anything before op it means that it will be cancelled. I therefore dont want him to have ds for the weekend just in case. Dont know how to word in to ex-p as ds wont actually be poorly/recovering on that weeked but needs to be kept home and away from others.

Also need to let ds know he is no longer going in to hosptial next week but now the week after and now it means he will miss his 'big' school trip Also meant to have parents evening but ds will have only come home from hosp the day before.

DP will be away in Japan and I will be 27 weeks preg. arrgghh

That must be a huge disappointment for you. If you have a good relationship with exP, can you not just explain? Or, if DS really wants to go, ask for him not to stay up late? I would have thought DS was just as likely to pick up stg at school, as "out and about" - will 2 days make so much difference?

(My DS has had tonsillectomy and adenoidectomy + grommets - I do understand where you're coming from).
HTH

Re parents evening - I would explain situation to teacher, and request a special meeting at another time - they shouldn't expect you to desert DS day after op, regardless of whether or not DP is there.

thanks mrs Cellophane - only just got back on PC. Ds is off from school on the Thursday, Friday and Monday before op to keep away from bugs etc so that is why wanting exp to do the same. Was thinking of suggesting that ds goes to see him for Saturday (not overnight) and that exp is welcome to come around and see ds while he is recuperating too.

Sounds v reasonable, Awen. Good luck and good luck for your ds's op.

(Be warned, if you haven't been through it before, you may have to make him eat toast afterwards!)