has anybody taken the abortion pill?

[cba]

please, i do not want any judgement, i havent fully decided. has anybody taken the abortion pill?

what were you experiences?

did you regret it?

[ETsmum]

cba, sorry can't help, but sympethies as this must be a VERY hard decision to make

[fortunecookie]

Yes but it's not actually called the "abortion pill". It's called the "morning after the night before pill". Or the "OMG, the condom fell off pill".

[cba]

no, fortune cookie, this is not the morning after pill, this pill can be taken up to nine weeks of pregnancy. first you take a pill then 48hours a pessary is inserted.

this would be number four and just feel mentally and physically i could not cope with another child.

[cba]

thanks etsmum, it really is hard decision

[Egg]

No experience but I had a friend who had two terminations, one surgical, one with the pill. She said the pill was actually a lot more traumatic as it spread the procedure out a lot more and was more painful. Hope you get some good advice soon.

[ronshar]

This is hard to write but I had no support when I had mine so here goes.
I was advised for medical reasons to terminate at 6weeks. I had the medical termination. Is is very simple to do. Too simple really.
The hard part is waiting for the pessary to work. As you have had children you will understand if I tell you it is just like a very quick birth. You pass the sac with alot of bleeding. The blood gushes out for what feels like hours. In reality it was about hour and half. Once sac is passed the blood loss lessens and then it is like a heavy period for about a week or so.
Physically not to traumatic, mentally hardest thing you can do. I still tear myself up about it as had MC this year. I am wreck!!
Do what you think is best for you and your family. Good luck.

[ETsmum]

Oh cba.....I am stopping at 1 ds You must be pretty busy with 3 already. Do you have a dh/dp or anyone to help with the decision in rl? I guess at the end of the day it is your decision though.....have you got a "gut instinct" feeling of what would be best for you?

[cba]

thanks for that ronshar. i appreciate where you are coming from when you said you pass the sac. i have had a mc before so there is light at the end of your tunnel you will conceive again.

it is really hard to think of this when i have three beautiful children and had the pain of a mc, and yet i am thinking of doing this willingly, dosent seem right but i have to think of the whole family

[cba]

etsmum, i have no gut instinct, i have always said i would not have a termination but the thought of another fills me with dread.

firstly, my last labour was horrific and i was left in my own blood and after birth for four hours, dh ended cleaning everything up and seeing to me.

i am rhesus negative and strep b so it is never a simple case of in and out of hospital it is at least 3 night stay.

the effect on me for the stress of the pregnancy, i am terrified, and the kids when i am not at home is too much for me to cope with i think.

although i am torn

[ronshar]

I have 2dds already so I know exactly where you are.
I hope you get help here this evening. It is a very difficult subject to ask for help about because lots of people have very strong views one way or another. Just keep in mind your existing children and your partner. Will another child enhance that dynamic or make things unbearable. It is something only you can decide.

[newlifenewname]

There is a pill that will bring about termination of pregnancy.Many GPs and medical practitioners welcome its use but it is not always readily available to patients. Some people feel that going through a medical termination is more helpful in terms of healing, others want to get it over with iyswim.

It depends on you as a person but I think whatever you choose it can be scary.

I've been through delivery at 16 weeks and also D&C but never taken the abortion pill. The D&C was easiest for me but this was after miscarriage. I think going through labour is very, very traumatic and would not personally recommend it so you need to decide ASAP dependeing on how may weeks you are.

[cba]

i am only about 4/five weeks, i am so surprised that the positive line was so bright, we only made love once last month as dh was away alot.

so know conception date. i just feel so deflated that i am stupid enough to be faced with this.

[newlifenewname]

Also, once you've decided to not terminate I don't think you ever regret it but it does change your life and sometimes limits aspects of your life so choosing not terminate is ot necessarily the 'right' thing even if you know you won't regret the child in the end.

It is farmore possible to regret termination of course. The main thing is to be sure of your feelings and let these guide your decision. Once you've decided, don't look back.

[pinkteddy]

Cba why don't you see if your local family planning clinic service run a termination counselling service? Then you can discuss with them what would be right for you. Not all consultants like medical abortions for the reasons ronshar describes so it may not be the best thing for you. Good luck with whatever you decide.

[cba]

thank you everybody, i know this is not an easy subject to talk about. i really appreicate you all not flmaing me.

what makes this worse is dh as told him mum i asked him not to

[ETsmum]

cba, I can see why your circs (rhesus negative, strep b etc) add to the stress of your births.....I suppose the birth is only a small part of having another baby tho. It does sound like the thought of the pregnancy is making you feel incredibly anxious and stressed (and for you at your dh) Re your last labour, know I've only had the 1, but I've been told they are all different? It could be a much more positive experience if you went through it again.

Think pinkteddy's idea re the family planning clinic is excellent. Please don't feel stupid, know you are definitely not the 1st to be surprised at being pg