Bad relationship with dying parent - my FIL has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's - they do not get on at all - don;t know how to help.

[BBBee]

This is so hard to know what to do.

FIL diagnosed with Alzheimer's after a few years of strange behaviour.

They live in a different country and speak a diffrent language.

DP has only seen him a hand full of times in the last ten years.

Since the diagnosis DP has been really odd and down and depressed but doesn;t want to do anything.

Do I let him get on with it?

Do I push and interfere?

Any idea what would be for the best?

Sorry to hear this, BBBee. It is natural for your dp to grieve at this stage, even though FIL could live for years with this condition. Or has he been given a short prognosis? People often die with, rather than from Alzheimers.

I think the best thing you can do for your dp is be a good listener, if he wants to talk.