Why do my consultant appointments leave me emotionally and physically exhausted?!

[Weegle]

I have a chronic auto-immune condition. I've just got back from the consultant's and I feel completely wrecked. I can't get off my bum to do anything but I can't even be bothered to tell DH what she said etc. I just want to switch off. I feel like this every time I get back from the hospital, like I just want to go to bed. Now DH is huffing around picking up my referral forms saying "well aren't you at least going to tell me what these are for?" and I just don't feel like recounting it all. Why on earth do I feel like this? He thinks I'm shutting him out and I'm not I just don't feel like talking about how crap my body is any more today.

Sorry Weegle, that you feel like this. You sound exhausted. Can you show him your post? If it's a recurring condition, can you teach him not to hassle you when you come back from the hospital and let you tell him in your own time?
hope you get some rest.

You need time to recover. It is part of your illness. Your consultant appointment is a stressful and exhausting experience.

You need peace, quiet and an early night to recover before you can discuss it with anyone. This is NORMAL.

Do you belong to a patient support group or anything? It sounds as if DH needs to learn a bit more about your condition. He probably just wants to help and be involved, but is going about it the wrong way.

Once he realises that the way to help is to run you a nice bath, cook dinner and let you have an early night, maybe he will feel more useful.

I just burst in to tears on him and he said he understood and we'll talk about it after dinner. I know he's concerned and interested (he likes to come with me but can't get time off always), and of course that's better than him not caring.

Tell him you will talk about it tomorrow.

Show him this thread.

He just wants to help - he needs to understand the best way of doing that.

Poor you - I hope you can get some rest now.

thank you, I've done that. He's now upstairs running me a bath! Well done 3littlefrogs!