Ill and hubby is getting resentful

[Constantbronchitislaryngitis]

Ive has bronchitis for 3 weeks and got diagnosed with laryngitis on Monday - gp has signed me off work for two weeks
My husband has been pretty great up until now.
But today he’s become really grumpy and actually said some mean things
It’s really upset me.

I’m not the Wellest of people anyway- have a long term chronic illness which makes me very fatigued
I try so hard to keep on top of things. All of my friends say my house is so tidy
He’s cleaning the house now (Properly for the first time in years- like 10 years he hasn’t hoovered- we have a cleaner about once a month if she shows up) and just moaning the whole time.
What is it with men sometimes?
Sorry I just wanted someone to share this with 🙏

Latter years my ex couldn't bear it if I was ill and became ill himself - and whatever he had was worse.

my partner is like this too. He gets really annoyed with me if I don't get better quickly enough.

I almost feel like he’s turning into me this week
Sort of bedraggled and tired from trying to look after kids and make meals, sort washing out
This week has prob shown him what my life is like most of the time on half terms 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

Abbie and morge thanks for your replies - made me feel half normal!

It can't be easy to be with someone who is always ill. I'm sorry to say that. I'd cut him some slack if he is just having a one off grumpy day. I get very grumpy and horrible when I have to hoover too.

Having a constant chronic illness is definitely not fun, it's draining and it's very hard to be upbeat. Looking after the house plus kids and working is grim, I have to do it too and it's a very hard so I completely empathise. When you are then sick on top of that and can't really function it's so hard so sorry your DH is not stepping up mine just leaves the housework for me for when I get better! Can you pay for a cleaner to come in each week until you get better. Freezer food plus fresh fruit won't kill you or you family off for a week or two. Rest and make sure you have some nutritious food.

It's pretty bad he is behaving this way when you are ill and he is just having to do some housework and look after the kids

Sorry posted too soon. I think it's bad as I said but it can be stressful when your spouse is ill and you say he has been good up until now. So if it just got a bit on top of him i would let it go, but if he keeps it up then that's different. I don't know why he never does any housework normally, is this fair especially when you have a chronic illness and also work?