Help. Road car accident with children.

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I had a road accident last week. The car completely lost control when I broke it flipped 360 and went into a hedge. Thank God kids at the back weren't hurt
Eldest only had a seatbelt scratch. My youngest is 21 months old
It was so horrible and it's been a week since. I've been in hospital
I wasnt so lucky I have an open fracture - my whole elbow bone is shattered and a big hole there. The skin had degloved. I went through to A&E and had two debridements so far in a week- where I was put under to clean the wound as it was full of glass and gravel. I'm in a sling and my arm.feels numb tbh
The worse thing, the worse pain is not being able to see my baby. Shes onlyn21 months. And it's so difficult I'm.always with the kids and were very close. She has been coming to see me.in hospital but its not the same shes running around she seems quite distressed I cant pick her up and play with her and its oure torture

My surgery is on Wednesday where they are gonna fix the fracture with wires or a PLATE AND then plastic surgery to cover hole so they need a flap of skin with blood supply
It really is horrendous and now my MH is failing as I cant cope..I'm so upset being away from my baby
The surgery will be 8 hours I'm.so scared I've tried googling this and cant find nothing does anyone know to cope? Any anecdotes? Has anyone had a similar injury and have a young child? How to cope? Thanks

Op you poor thing must be so difficult. Here to hold hand 💐

I'm afraid I have no experience of anything like this. I couldn't leave without commenting, you poor thing it sounds so hard. Wishing you a speedy recovery both mentally and physically.

Apologies, the face emoji was accidental

I know it’s difficukt,but I think it would be more helpful to you to try and rationalise the situation- understand that you are where ou are,you cannot change or control it. You can however focus your energies to heal and rest, accept that your job in terms of looking
after your little one right now is the healing and resting.Its so tough, it’s not your fault, but just try to accept that you need to rest so house body can heal.Your baby won’t remember .

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You poor thing by the way, awful thing to happen to anyone.x