Any GPs or advice about Male issue

[Fuzzyfrogs03]

Hello
I am trying to convince my OH to go to the Dr but its proving difficult.

We have been together for 1 year and this issue has been consistent throughout our relationship. Our relationship is fantastic but he has issues (I think) with ED. Trying not to out in this post or TMI but I am getting concerned.

A little bit of background, he is 30 years old no health issues, exercises five times a week (no meds or supplements), good BMI etc. This is his first relationship so nerves at the start and erection would be lost prior to dtd. However, over the months confidence has risen and erection is maintained on entering but lost in the act. He has never orgasmed this way with me. At the start, we spoke about nerves etc but also that the foreskin area is too tight and does not move back. He claims that he loses sensation hence losing the erection... he also pleasures himself and can orgasm this way.... but not when I do it. I have doubted myself and taken a confidence hit, but as I say our relationship is fantastic and our sex life (apart from this is great). He has recently proposed and as we are talking about marriage and children I'm concerned about how I'd ever fall pregnant in the future? And that I want him (and myself) to experience 'proper' sex.

I have gently broached the subject with him and he knows there is an issue but is reluctant to act upon it and tells me he is happy with what we do currently.

I guess I'm just asking for advice really? Has anyone else's partner been in a similar situation and what was the outcome?

Thanks

Also low alcohol intake approx 1 or 2 glasses of wine a week

Anyone?

My husband had a tight foreskin and eventually had a circumcision in his thirties. He said it was the best thing ever and he's so happy to have finally sorted it.

OP, there are two separate health issues here. If his foreskin is indeed still non retractile at 30, he needs this sorted, as it increases his risk of penile cancer.
The quickest solution is s circumcision, but if he’s not keen it can be worth trying a few weeks of steroid cream to thin the skin and then easing it back gradually with gentle stretching.
As for the erectile disfunction, this is more complex and there are many possible causes. It would be worth him discussing it with the GP when he goes to get the foreskin sorted, just to rule out physical causes, but if he can manage fine when masturbating, it seems unlikely.
It is possible he has a “death grip” (google it!) from watching porn, and cannot get sufficient grip or stimulation from piv sex. Or he may be gay and in denial.
Once he has seen the GP, you need a serious discussion with him before any thought of a long term relationship or marriage with this unresolved.
Good luck.

Hi both

Thank you for your responses. I hadn't thought of it as two separate issues, I think I presumed one was related to the other due to lack of sensitivity etc. I am working on the GP appointment so will hopefully resolve soon :) thank you