Post partum vaginal changes

[daisychest]

After I’d given birth, I was being stiched up and the midwife went to ask a doctor if I needed ‘a stitch on the clitoris’. She was advised there was no need. Fast forward a few months when I’ve felt I can get back into that side of life again - and no clitoris. Literally nothing there now. Feels very clinical writing about it, feel like I have no emotion but also think I’m in shock. Does this happen?! I have mentioned it to a doctor and she seemed very blasé. I literally feel like I’ll never have sex or at least get enjoyment from it again. Where to turn? Anyone been through similar or have any advice? It’s not something I can bring up with friends, my OH stressed with new baby responsibilities, work etc and fairly disinterested in this consequence.

OP sorry to ask but do you mean clitoral hood? Because the clitoris should still be there.

How long post partum are you? Have you had a professional take a look for you?

This sounds horrific! Do you mean no sensation or physically gone? How bad was your tear? I think you need to see your GP again or another GP and be clear how this is affecting you

Thanks for the replies. Both hood and actual clitoris gone, entirely flat.
I do have some sensation but very limited and any time I feel like I’m in the mood, I just think, ‘no, no point’. Thank you, definitely know it’s time to see another GP, just so scared that that’s it and I’ll have a lot of invasive checks for nothing. My DS is 2 soon, so I’m pretty postpartum. I think initial GP response right at the beginning made me think this was commonplace.

If this is the case OP, it may have much larger implications due to FGM laws.

At any point did they do anything surgical to your clitoris? It's important that you know this and I would request medical notes to see.

Get your doctor to refer you straight to gynae, no messing about. This isn't commonplace, I'm very confused as to what's happened to you and it's not something I've ever come across before as a gynae/acute female surgical nurse.

I am so so sorry you're going through this and I hope you get some answers I really do

I think even in fairly horrific circumstances like FGM there is sometimes something that can be done so I would definitely be hopeful in this instance. Nothing was cut away it just clearly hasn’t healed as it should have. I’m sure there will be a way to help you. Get another opinion for sure

Nothing surgical took place but I feel like this was amiss. That’s why it’s gone.
Will make sure I see GP.