when is it time for AD's?

[enufisenuf]

When did you (or DH/P)say "OK enough is enough, this can't go on, I think I need to look at AD's"?

Ad's ?????

when you realise you're not coping despite your best efforts?

when you really can't face getting up in the morning. every morning.

ADS's = anti depressants. Depneds how you define 'cope'. It's DH btw

Mornings are fine, he's worse when he's got to multi task around the kids, get too stressed too quickly and then can't really function properly -gets paralysed poor guy.

I was seeing a psychologist, talking about the nightmares I was having and my lack of motivation to do anything. Also the first anniversary of my husband's death was approaching. She suggested I see a psychiatrist to talk about the possibility of ADs. It hadn't occurred to me before that. I didn't realise I was depressed. But she was right and it helped, eventually.

Is this new behaviour? Always been this way? Has anything happened that could have triggered it?

Kate, yeah there has been new job, house move, lots of DIY but thats all over now and he doesnt seem to be getting any better...

Have you talked to him about it, about the possibility that he might be depressed and need some help?

when I realised there was NOTHING I could think of that I would like to do/see/visit/experience.

When the feeling of sadness was so constant as to overwhelm me.

When the idea of ADs ceased to seem so terrible

Yep, he's going to make an appointment at the doctors tomorrow. what's been holding him back is that this isnt a constant state, he's up and down. He thinks if you're properly depressed you should be,not wanting to get up out of bed, crying, contantly miserable etc. I think he's just got quite a lot many straws on his camel's back and it only take a couple more to send him a bit wayward - IYKWIM.

Well the doctor will be able to talk to him about whether or not it is actually depression. In my experience it wasn't a constant thing either. I still got an enormous amount of joy from my children.

Good luck to both of you.

Thanks Kate, for listening.

You're welcome.

I knew DIY was bad for your health. Thanks for confirming it. I'm going to the park tomorrow instead of finishing painting the bathroom. I mean I only started in April.......

When there's no joy in life.
When you can't be ar$ed to do anything.
When you can't remember what life was like not being depressed.
When you have everything in life you could wish for but still sit and cry for hours over nothing.
When you feel you're down in the bottom of a deep pit and not only can you not get out, you don't want to get out.

my BIL is on ADs and my sister said she knows when he is depressed because he loses his appetite, can't concentrate or makes decisions and doesn't seem enthused by anything ie doesn't rush home from work excited to see the baby. HTH

enufisenuf - depression doesn't always mean someone can't get out of bed/never ever feels happy etc - it can manifest itself in many ways - sometimes even purely as physical symptoms. hope your dh's visit to the doctors goes well.

enuf; I went on for ages without realising that i had mild depression because i was looking for the stereotyped symptoms...I was feeling negative and agressive all the time, very irritable and volatile, and was reacting very emotionally to minor events, whilst letting quite major things wash over me. 8 months later, on low-dose cipralex, I am transformed, and confidently stopping taking them.