New mole appeared, could be cancerous. Upset

[MummEE2]

So a few days ago I woke up and noticed a mole on my neck. Quite a big and dark mole, looks like a blood blister but it's not. At first I thought it's a raisin stuck to my neck! Saw GP who's referred me to a dermatologist to make sure it's not cancer.

I'm waiting for this appointment and it's taken its toll on me as I'm stressing out it could be cancer, as the mole looks very different to all the other moles I have. I am 30 years old.

I have a 10 yr old and a 3 month old and I've been snappy with my DH and my 10 yr old. I hate myself for this. I keep thinking if I die my youngest won't even remember his mum. I've been very tearful every day. I know it might not be cancer and even if it is it might be ok but can't help how I feel.

Not sure why I'm posting, I'm just upset and wanted to let it out I guess

Hi OP I’m waiting to go to beast clinic so know how stressful it can be.
The most important thing is that you have been proactive and not left it. The chances are that it is completely fine but even if it isn’t you have dealt with it quickly. I have two colleagues who have had skin cancers removed in the last year. Both are completely fine now.
Hope you get your appointment through quickly.

Thank you Dahliaaa, it's reassuring to know others have been through it and come out the other end. Hope things go well for you.

A bit random but for the past few days a small bird has been trying to get into my house, tapping on one of the windows. I thought it's so weird especially as it keeps coming back so googled it and wish I hadn't! The first thing that came up is that it means an impending death in the house. I'm not normally superstitious but it's scared me even more-what a terrible coincidence when I'm already so stressed out

On your neck, it sounds like it couldn't have been there long or you would have noticed it long ago. I'm not sure if cancers come up suddenly. First I ever heard of it, anyway.

I saw GP yesterday about mystery skin bump. He declared it a harmless pappiloma (sp?). Ugly but hidden on my back. Most skin growths are benign. I have lots.

I work for a GP OP and we refer many many patients to dermatology for suspected cancer and very few of them are diagnosed with skin cancer. Even if you are, you've caught it really early and that makes the chance of a complete cure very high. You have to be seen within 2 weeks so make sure you chase it up and are offered an appointment in that timeframe. All the best.

Even though it's for a different reason, I can be a virtual hand to hold. I've just been referred to the rectal bleeding clinic on a two week referral. It's unlikely that I actually have bowel cancer (just as it's unlikely that you have skin cancer) but the wait is horrible nonetheless.

Thank you for your replies. Yes I think I noticed it literally the day it appeared as it is in a visible place and quite dark. And I saw GP the next day. So you're right I was quick which I guess is good. GP did say that it'll take 2 weeks for me to be seen by the dermatologist.

I don't know anything about skin cancer and the only symptoms I seem to find on internet is the moles. I otherwise feel well in myself. I've stopped googling things now though as I realise if I hadn't in the first place i wouldn't have been so worried. Mind you that's why I saw GP that soon.

Have to try to keep positive and try to think everything will be ok..it's just hard

HugAndRoll the wait is horrible as you just have to try to forget about it and get on with your life which I'm finding impossible.

Hope it goes well for you 🌸

I have my colonoscopy on 22/02. Have you heard anymore about when you're going to be seen?

If it's any comfort I have one just like that on my ankle. If you look at it, it's deep purple. I got referred to the dermatotgist, and they said there was no chance of it being cancerous. There was a official name but it basically meant a blood vessel had got a bit wrong. Apparently they can freeze it off, or leave it and it'll probably disappear some day. It's got slightly larger, but no signs of it going yet.

I've had something similar and it turned out to be a cherry angioma (harmless).
I've also had a dodgy lesion removed so I sympathise and know the waiting is awful. But the melanoma clinics are always so busy, literally so many people there and only a tiny tiny percentage of them will go on to have a diagnosed melanoma, most turn out to be benign.
So try not to worry, you've literally only just noticed it so it's unlikely to be anything really nasty but you are doing the right thing by getting it seen and sorted.
Good luck with your appointment.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3490385-Melanoma-I-need-some-positive-stories?msgid=84760733

This is a very recent similar thread, hope it helps.

Please try not to worry too much. I am fair skinned and seem to grow lots of new moles the older I get (especially on my face). But many I have had since childhood, both flat and raised, pale and really dark, and many have grown larger with age. They're all benign. One on my cheek started 'causing trouble', kept bleeding and not healing so I went to the GP and they referred me right away. They removed it and then checked it. It was all FINE, just some inflammation, no traces of cancer, but when moles get irritated I think they like to remove them 'just in case'. Now I have a tiny pale scar on my cheek instead.

Trump thanks for sharing my recent thread. I hope it is helpful for you MumEE2

You have all my sympathies because I have just been through a mole removal and the wait for diagnosis is absolutely horrendous. I think partly it’s because the scale is so wide with these things - caught early and there are really good prognosis, caught late and it’s not so good. It’s awful. But as others have said, you have taken quick action and that’s a really good thing. And the chances are it isn’t anything sinister.

It turned out my mole was a melanoma but thankfully (and I am so thankful), it was caught early before it had spread anywhere else. It has been an incredibly frightening experience so you can have a hand hold from me

The bird will be a blue tit trying to frighten off its reflection. I've one in my garden at the moment, trying to defend its territory from its own reflection. Bird brain is a thing!

My DH has just had his first 3 monthly check after early melanoma removal. They were very thorough over his whole body (in hair, between toes etc) and there was nothing of concern with his many moles. He hasn't given it much thought since it was diagnosed because at that point it was already gone. It sounds OP as though your case at worst would be caught early and soon nothing to worry about. Hang in there.

I know quite a few fair-skinned mole-y people who have had to be checked a lot. Most things tend to be harmless.

I completely get that it is worrying but try hard not to torture yourself with catastrophising. You've been referred because it's now recognised that people need to be checked by experts who do this kind of thing a lot, rather than GPs.

I had one on my lower back that suddenly appeared. My GP referred me and the consultant was concerned about its appearance. I had it removed and was given a telephone follow up for four weeks. Four fucking weeks! Anyway, I was at my GPs for something else after two weeks and the result was on my record. Thankfully, it was a normal mole.

They really can't tell by looking at them, which is why they remove them. I have everything crossed that yours is okay OP.

Good luck! My breast cancer was caught very early and I'm in remission! Diagnosed in autumn 2017. The earlier diagnosis the better! FYI I had a hideous flat, brown sore on my left cheek about size of a half Dollar almost like a mushroom cap-it hurt like hell and bleed when touched-dermatologist gave me 48 hours or she'd biopsy it as it was so different than anything she'd seen on me before-it literally scared the crap out of me but was later diagnosed as an atypical acne cyst

Thank you trumponerous for the link.

My appointment has come through-it's on 14th Feb. I'm glad I've got the date now.

The mole has slightly changed-from being very dark red looking like a blood blister to now being mostly lighter red than dark. So I'm hoping it's a positive thing as it looks more 'normal' if that makes sense.

Thank you for sharing positive stories, it's made me feel better.

I had an itchy mole removed last year. It was benign but I have an increased risk of skin cancer in the future. MiL had a cancerous lump removed a couple of years ago and all she needed was the mole removed.

Had the appointment, my mole is absolutely fine, just pigmentation 😊

Great news!

Fantastic news.

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