I'm in Hospital

[nzborn]

AIBU to want to sleep.L am one of the many people who hurt them selves due to the snow and ice.
An ambulance took me to A and E on Saturday night where l stayed until a few hours ago and l finally got to a ward and thought finally it was peaceful .
While in A and E the first night l got no sleep by night two l had had a couple of hours.following night a few more.
This lack of sleep was caused by patents,their visitors and staff any complaints and you are concided the difficult one.
Now on the ward and someone comes in who's dying and in come their family making noise l heard someone else ask them to be quiet so l am not the only one with this issue.
But l just had a nurse come in and tell me the person is dying and all the family are staying.l had previously requested that if the wanted to talk could't they leave the ward, being quite when they were in the ward
And l know we should show compassion for the dying and their family but l am getting so depressed and crying,L had my partner bring in an eye mask and ear plugs but my ears are now sore.
My son suggested down loading white noise but NHS wi fi won't allow access to youtube.
l could do with a lot of hugs from you all.

I hope you get some sleep soon.

The visitors are saying the final goodbyes to a dying family member. Have some compassion!

the first two comments are examples of how different we all are and how we all look at things differently.l do have compassion for the relatives but if l was in their position l would be acting differently.

No you don’t know that they will never see their Mum/Dad /Wife/Husband/Child again ever. This is their final chance to talk to say goodbye. Yes in general visitors should not talk in the early hours but this is very very different. When you finally drop off to sleep your loved ones will be alive when you wake.
When they finally sleep in many hours time they will wake up devastated.
With Compassion comes empathy and the understanding that sometimes someone else’s needs are greater than yours.
This is one of those times.

if l was in their position l would be acting differently.

I really don't think you would. The very last thing on your mind when you had a dying relative would be the other people in the ward.

I'm sorry you are tired and having a bad time OP, but presumably you will be leaving hospital alive?

Can you afford to pay for a private room to get some sleep?

Where I'm from, dying relatives are given a private room, so that they don't disrupt the patients on the ward.
I truly sounds awful for you, but that's the NHS.

I think you have to try to see the bigger picture here. Unfortunate for you, but other people are having a worse time.

But, weaning???

Hi all,
We've moved this to General Health now.

It would be lovely for the dying patient and their relatives to be given a side room so they can have some peace and quiet to spend their time together. Are you able to leave the ward at all, go for a bit of a break somewhere with your visitors. Wards can be noisy, earplugs, eye masks, listening to soft music on a CD player or ipod can help.

How noisy are the relatives of the dying person?
I get why you’re upset OP, sleep deprivation is horrible, what sort of ear plugs have you got? If he silicone wax ones don’t hurt ime. Hope you get some sleep soon

My dad recently passed away on a hospital ward that was designed for 4 beds but due to other wards being closed down there were 6 beds in the bay. There was less than 3 feet between beds & when we were called to say that we needed to come in as his condition had deteriorated we felt guilty about disturbing the other patients during the night & early mornings. He had no privacy or dignity, after he passed away he was left in the bed for over 8 hours & we felt that this was unfair to the other patients. We had asked for a side room but we're told that they couldn't do this as it would mean extra nursing staff would be needed to care for him, it was easier to care for 6 patients in one bay. My dad wasn't the only patient to pass away in that bay during his stay & it was the same for the other patient, his body was left in the bed for over 8 hours before being removed. I have messaged my MP about conditions in the hospital & she is investigating this matter.