Overthinking constantly.

[dontfluffthefluffer]

I'm unsure where this should be but this seemed like a place to pop it.

I overthink everything just now. Conversations go round in my head for days after I've had them until I've picked apart every stupid thing I've said and convinced myself I'm a fool and hated.

If I eat anything (and I mean anything) I berate myself over it. I need to lose a couple of stone and am fixated on how fat I feel but am actually a regular 12 size just now maybe erring into a small 14 but hate the way I look.

Does anyone else do this? Is it normal to completely overthinking everything and bully yourself so much?

I don't actually have anyone to speak to so am super lonely and quite stressed just now, maybe this is a form of control of myself. I don't know.

Anyone do this too?

Hi,

I just wanted to say that you are definitely not alone in this. I suffer with really bad anxiety and depression. Like last year, I was constantly overthinking and worrying about things I knew I shouldn't be worried about. And instead of reassuring myself, I would just give myself more and more reasons to worry and it took a toll on me and the people around me. I also struggled really hard with self-esteem issues and I felt like I was never good enough/worth it.

But it is definitely not normal to belittle and bully yourself as there is no reason for you to. I suggest reading self-help books and trying mindfulness techniques and meditation -- using apps like Headspace or Calm. If none of these help change your perspective, maybe consider seeking professional help and going to therapy? I've been to a few sessions and it really helped me when I talked things out with a professional.

Hope things look up for you soon

Not unusual, don'tfluffthefluffer. I'm like that too, mind constantly buzzing. The only respite is when I sleep (& then I dream vividly but that can be interesting), as soon as I wake it starts again.

I do this OP. Constantly going over and over conversations, the other night I lay there for 3 hours going over the same thing, I feel like I’m going insane! Im also getting to the point where I need to do something, I’m constantly exhausted by it.

I'm so sorry, I only just saw these replies. Thanks so much for letting me know I'm not alone!

Yes! I too only get respite when asleep but the crazy dreams start. I often don't drop off until 4/5 am and then am back up at 7 so am shattered.

Thanks for the app recommendations. I'll give them a bash, if just feels like I'm turning myself into a hermit trying to avoid social situations therefore stopping myself from having conversations with others.

My anxiety is through the roof just now but I fear going to the doctor about it tbh.

Loads of for all that need it right now. I know I'm doing it but can't stop it somehow.

Also, the odd thing is, I can help others with exactly the same issues. I talk them down, help them work through their thoughts but can't take my own advice.

Anyone needs a hype lady - I'm right here for you!

I do this with conversations I had or things that happened when I was at school. I'm nearly 30. For me it's just a symptom of anxiety.

I overthink especially in the last year as going through tough divorce.
It is also making me a bit OCD with things I usually check more than once am now checking multiple times.

@RoseMartha I also do this with some things too. I feel it's a control thing with me.

The overthinking and self hatred has definitely escalated since the end of a pretty emotionally abusive relationship which made me question myself constantly (and clearly I still do).

I hope everyone has had a good week though, it's not easy living with it.

@dontfluffthefluffer i am coming out of similar and the divorce has been going on for a year. We all live in same house. I have tried to get me and kids out , but because I am on low wage and half own the house it is pretty impossible. Even the council told me they could not help and to stay in the house!!!
I have since discovered if I rent (budget will only allow for 1 bed flat), I can claim UC but only for six months. There is no way on earth that this including house sale will be over by then. What would I do then? I have tried getting a better job, no luck and i am still looking. One of my kids has special needs. So the job has to be flexible for that reason. And I need school holidays off or reduced hours or potential to work from home. Even now i have to take time off and make it up later when issues arise.
My ocd tendencies have increased because of this. I try not to let the kids see me checking stuff when I feel anxious and i feel like it is panic inside. I dont have it all the time but if h has been abusive I do.
Sending you a 🤗