Hi, I’m posting today because tbh I am freaking out. My partner of 11 years, went to the docs yesterday due to a large solid lump in his scrotum between the testicles. It’s so big he or I or the the doctor can’t tell if it’s actually attached to a testicle or not, it’s like he’s got 3 testicles, it’s between them.
The doctor said she was going to request an emergency scan and that OH would get a letter within 2 weeks with an appointment. First thing this morning he received a message from the doctor saying she had referred him to the urology department at our local hospital instead and had requested he is seen within the next week. The hospital called about an hour later with an appointment for Monday.
He hasn’t complained of a lump until recently but is now saying it has been there for at least a year or so. I’ve asked him why he hasn’t mentioned it and he just thought it was one of those things, he’s a typical man like that will never just go to the doctors until he’s not coping with whatever he’s got wrong at the time. He has had fordyce spots for a few years now which he has complained were sore so I’ve not interfered with his ‘balls’ for a while to of even noticed anything myself.
The doctor shined a torch through his scrotum where the lump is and the light didn’t shine through it which apparently means it’s not a cyst or a lump of fluid, it’s a solid mass.
I’ve googled a lot and what I’m reading is just scaring the hell out of me that this could actually be cancer. Is there anyone out there who perhaps has any experience in this that could advise me on what to even do?!
He’s normally the one with a strong head and the right things to say but he broke down crying earlier saying how scared he is and I just didn’t have the words to really say I’m just trying not to over evaluate it right now in front of him but I’d be lieing if I said I wasn’t crapping myself.
The hospital didn’t tell him what would be happening or what to expect at his appointment on Monday, it’s just left us wondering what is going on really, it’s definitely being taken seriously and being rushed through. If anyone can tell me what to expect it would be really reassuring?!
We have 3 little boys 7,6 and 4. We are a team and they love their daddy to pieces, it would crush our whole family is something is seriously wrong. Even if it’s not life threatening it’s just awful to think there is anything wrong that could mean he is poorly.
I know most people will probably just say wait and see what happens on Monday, which is all I can find to say to him myself. But, if anyone can advise me or give me anything to make this a bit clearer In my head I would honestly appreciate it. I don’t really know what else to say.
Thank you from a frightened partner and mum!