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Is this anxiety? How do I calm down??

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carrottopper · 06/01/2019 01:38

This might be a long one.

I'm wondering if this is anxiety and if there is anything I can do to calm down and keep my temper. I don't think I need to see a gp and would prefer other steps prior to this if possible.

My main concern is around the stress I feel over my children. I have a 6 year old and a 3 year old. The 3 year old is very lively and outgoing- the opposite to his sister. He is very hard to manage and does the typical running off, chasing around, cheeky things that a 3 year old developing his independence does.

His 6 year old sister is quiet, seems to be left out at school a bit and this worries me. She doesn't seem to be settling into friendships like other children and I've developed this panic over her being left behind academically. I think it's shyness, nothing Sen related. She is slightly struggling academically. I teach the same year she is in and can't help but compare her all the time!!! I put far too much pressure on her (I feel I do anyway). But I don't feel I can stop as I'm trying to support her with reading and writing at home (only a few sentences about what she has done that day, and a book to read). I end up snapping at her, banging the table (!!!!!), losing my temper and usually her 3 year old brother is trying to climb all over us or take the pencil from her hand just to make it all so much more stressful. I know he's craving attention and I try to set him off on a colouring activity, jigsaw etc before hand but it doesn't work.

How do I calm down? This was my New Years resolution and I'm determined to crack it before I crack up and ruin my children!!!!

I've tried working with my 6 year old at different times so vary it so it's not just bedtime or meal times etc.

I do feel I need to do the work with her (5 minutes writing and reading a story). I don't feel I'm doing too much work with her, just that I'm being far too hard on her. I don't do this with the children in my class! I'm ruining my children and showing them how to lose their temper Sad

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Auntiepatricia · 06/01/2019 01:47

Well you know there’s a problem. That’s a good start. Could your DP do homework some of the time if not all of the time for a while? Kids and the situations around them can be deeply stressful and this homework one seems to really push your buttons. You know you shouldn’t be losing your temper as it will make her hate her schoolwork even more.

ninalovesdragons · 06/01/2019 02:15

Just because you're a teacher doesn't mean you can teach your daughter. My parents were teachers and they learned early on that treating me like a student didn't work and very much left me to it. My mum drove me up the wall. Great at teaching, but she said too much when she got frustrated with me and then eventually I'd snap back when I was old enough. If I needed help they'd ask a friend to tutor. Perhaps take a step back from it all and see how she does on her own

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