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Holy Moly! Is this what they call colic? If yes....help!

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Megglevache · 14/06/2007 06:52

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Pruners · 14/06/2007 06:59

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ScottishThistle · 14/06/2007 07:01

Have you tried pushing her legs up toward her tummy to relieve her?

Also I find holding baby on your arm lying on their front helps them a bit as it puts pressure on the tummy.

You have my sympathy!

Megglevache · 14/06/2007 07:02

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Megglevache · 14/06/2007 07:02

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TootyFrooty · 14/06/2007 07:07

Every sympathy. Ds2 had it for 16 weeks every single day/evening. He was a preemie and I'm convinced that was why it was so bad. Nothing worked for us at all. Hopefully someone will be able to help you. Total nightmare.

Pruners · 14/06/2007 07:08

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Megglevache · 14/06/2007 07:09

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Megglevache · 14/06/2007 07:09

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ScottishThistle · 14/06/2007 07:10

Sorry nothings working for you, I do know how awful it is.

I was called on an emergency 24hr job for a Mother who was at the end of her tether many years ago...Can you afford just one night of care to give you a break or ask a very kind relative to have her for a night?

Megglevache · 14/06/2007 07:16

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ScottishThistle · 14/06/2007 07:25

Don't be a martyr, let people help if they want to!

Megglevache · 14/06/2007 10:55

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Jackaroo · 14/06/2007 11:04

Meggle, I'm so sorry. Only one solution for me, and no idea of your circ.s, but I stopped drinking milk in any form (even cheese etc for a bit, and then went back to that). Practically disappeard over about 2 nights. Anything after that was a one off at a time, indicating that something I'd eaten had made a difference, and in those situations I used griped water. ONly thing that made a difference.
Good luck, I know it's hell..........

Highlander · 14/06/2007 11:29

It's a perfectly normal phase that some babies go through. Numerous studies have shown that 'colicky' babies do not have any more wind in their systems than placid babies. Screaming starts at 3-4 weeks and peaks at 6 weeks. Often called 'purple crying'. Most babies that are shaken to death are killed during this phase apparently.

DS1 was like this - my lovely HV gave me a copy of 'The Happiest Baby on the Block', by Dr Harvey Karp. I cannot recommend it enough!

In short - follow the 5 Ss:

1.SWADDLE - use the arm lock method, keeing the swaddle resonably loose over the chest. A Miracle Blanket is designed for just this. Otherwise google - there is a clip somewhere of a dad arm locking with 2 receiving blankets. Your baby will obviously resist the swaddle - keep at it with steps 2-5...........

  1. SIDE/STOMACH - crying babies freak out when on their back (it activiates the startle reflex). Swaddle, cradle your baby on his side then.......

  2. SWING - dance from side to side really, really fast, making sure your baby's head is snug in your arm. This makes the tiny, imperceptable shoogling he got in the womb. Or use a baby swing on the fastest setting.

  3. SHOOSH! SHOOSH! - say this into your baby's ear - really loudly. It must be louder than your baby's cry for him to hear. You'll feel damn uncomfortable doing this, but a baby's cry is louder than a hoover. This white noise is supposed to mimic the sound of blood rushing in the womb. Hairdryers, hoovers, washing machines are also good sources of white noise, but they never worked for DS1.

  4. SUCK - breast feed when he's calmed down, or use a soother.

These crying fits will come in a cycle of 3-4 every 15 mins. Thus the first few times, it will take you a good 15 mins to calm him. When the first crying phase eases, you can ease off the shooshing, shoogling, but do expect it to start up again.

I was suicidal with DS1 until I started the 5 Ss. Within 24 hours of practising the 5Ss, I was able to calm him almost instantly. Some days he would be bad, but it never took me long to calm him.

Good luck

P.S. Before you start on all this - be confident that he doesn't have reflux (vomiting badly after feeds etc). As a matter of course, prop up the mattress in his cot anyway.

domesticgrumpess · 14/06/2007 11:32

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Jackaroo · 14/06/2007 11:57

Ah yes, good point domesticgrumpess - god forbid that I should assume breastfeeding by all - am seriously unimpressed by the b'fding obsession after my own experiences.

Should have also said, make sure that if you're keeping up the non-dairy thing for any length of time, that you have good calcium supp.s from your GP

Jackaroo · 14/06/2007 11:59

Sorry, me again, when we did start introducing formula we used prescription stuff - Nutrimigen... the milk proteins are broken up so small the body doesn't recognise as milk...
HTH more

Megglevache · 14/06/2007 18:54

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kels666 · 15/06/2007 10:22

Sympathy to you - my dd had all-day colic for 4 mths and it was the hardest thing I've ever experienced. I got some great tips from 'The Baby Whisperer' BUT the best thing I found was white noise - hair drier or hoover. God knows what our electricity bill was in those days. Also, it will pass - sooner than you think - I felt like I was in a huge black hole at the time, but suddenly we started to have the odd 'good day' and then at 4 mths my horrible, screaming bundle became a gorgeous, happy little angel

puppydavies · 15/06/2007 10:48

i found dr sears really reassuring when dd1 had all day colic. it has lots of ideas for how to help and how to cope when there's very little you can do to help. tbh we tried everything and nothing soothed her more than very temporarily, but at least dr sears helped me believe that we weren't alone and we weren't actually causing it ourselves or making it worse.

having recently had dd2 (no colic) i now realise how totally different a colicky baby is to the cries and grumbling of a "normal" baby and you have my utmost sympathy.

i would say accept all the help you can - and remember others e.g. your mum will be less distressed by dd's cries than you are. talk about how you're feeling with people who've been there, people with "normal" babies really can't understand. do whatever you have to to get through - remember it will pass and probably overnight when it happens (dd's stopped on the day she turned 12 weeks).

mostlyalurker · 15/06/2007 10:52

The Happiest Baby book worked for me for all three of mine. Worth a try.Good Luck.

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