I don't know where to start. It's not going to be brief. A few years ago I had a major depressive episode resulting in 5 months of work and a diagnosis of unusual unipolar depression. I managed to see a private psych and ended up on a very low dose drug that is not common for depression having spent months trying the usual channels. Went back to work and did very well for a period.
Then I became exhausted and kept getting ill repeatedly with low level things. After 9 months of this, the GP ran lots of blood tests. These picked up that I was severely vitamin D deficient and my hormones were very low. (No periods for over a year.) I also had severe hand and foot swelling in the morning and pain in lots of places. The blood tests said it wasn't arthritis or lupus. GP said it was probably CFS.
I paid for a private gynae and started HRT. I also have severe bowel problems and paid privately to see another specialist - it's a close run thing but so far I am managing - next step would be a bowel re-section and he doesn't want that at my age.
All of this was against a backdrop that I lost a lot of weight. I needed to at the start - I was about 16 stone. By the end of the depression I was 8 stone. So again I tried to put the symptoms down to weight loss.
I had to reduce my hours last year due to medication changes and the tiredness. I am back up on full hours and have been kidding myself saying I'm ok. The trouble is I can be for a few weeks but then it crashes again. The last 4 months have brought more exhaustion, more swollen hands and feet, more pain.
But I can't stop. I need to work, look after the children etc. I am going back to the GP for a medication review, I don't even know if I have the energy to discuss this again. If it is CFS - I can't see how a diagnosis would change anything - there's no medication, no cure. And, I think all I can do is keep going. I try to be kind to myself, I exercise and I've worked hard on eating.
I feel rather large now - I've put on the best part of 2 stone and am a solid size 10 at 5'10. I thought I'd have more energy being a healthy weight for 9 months but it's not materialised. I simply don't have the funds or energy for more private appointments. And I don't know where to turn. Perhaps this is now me, I am getting older now (over 40) but I feel ancient.