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oh god, am a crap parent, help allergy advise needed!

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carol3 · 07/06/2007 21:57

DD1 is at ex dh tonight as I'm on a night shift he rang me at 8pm to say he'd accidently given her hazelnut chocolate (she has a nut allergy) He paniced and rang an ambulance, they came but she appeared ok apart from ichy mouth. Well he's just rang me and said she has thrown up a few times and is complaining of stomach ache.

Ok really bad mum bit, he doesn't have any antihismanines or an epipen. Usually these go back and forward in the ovewr night bag, but I forgot them tonight. Ahahhh am soooo crap.

Will ring gp in the morning and get pen and pirton to be kept at her dads, but feel awful tonight.
She has only ever had one reaction before when she was 2 and that was to peanuts but she had a severe reaction. She is 7 now.
So, sorry for rambling, Is sickness normal, I've just said keep a close eye on her, what else, just want to go to her feel awful, as heard her crying in the background

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carol3 · 07/06/2007 22:05

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Kif · 07/06/2007 22:08

sorry for you

I don't have experience directly - but I think the vomiting is her reaction. If she were going to get an anaphylactic thing, it would have happened already. I think she'll be fine.

And you're not a crap mum - if it were me I would find allergies incredible stressful.

Frizbe · 07/06/2007 22:09

Oh yep, I developed a nut allergy after having dd1, to hazelnuts (bizarely have always been allergic to wallnuts, but ok with peanuts etc upto having dd1?!) I barf like a trouper and my lips and mouth swell up, needless to say each time I react it gets worse, so do my best to avoid them at all times.

yajorome · 07/06/2007 22:11

I've always heard sickness is an reaction to the histamine flooding the system. If it were me, I'd take her in or make sure she has the epipen and antihistamine at hand. I'd give her the antihistamine and if it doesn't help or she got worse in any way, I'd give her the epipen. I have a 9 yo with a peanut allergy who hasn't had an anaphylactic reaction since he was two-ish and don't tend to overreact (have gotten yelled at by a doctor for underreacting).

Anyway, I won't be horrified if you don't take my suggestion. I know the worry and hope it calms down quickly.

(Sorry if I don't reply again - am really just on for a few minutes but didn't want to leave this unanswered!)

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carol3 · 07/06/2007 22:16

thanks just tried to call phone engaged so now i'm panicing again!

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yajorome · 07/06/2007 22:16

Correction - have just thought a bit more and I wouldn't take her in unless the antihistamine and/or epipen didn't work. Well, I'd take her in, probably, if I gave her the epipen.

But I have ishoos with going to a&e for allergies - you're probably a bit more sane about that than me.

Frizbe · 07/06/2007 22:31

hope she's ok {{{Hugs}}}

millie99 · 07/06/2007 22:34

Why do you have"ishoos" yajorome?

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carol3 · 07/06/2007 22:49

he's just text to say she appears ok, asleep on the sofa, told him to watch her carefully, thanks for all your replies can't wait till morning

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brimfull · 07/06/2007 23:08

carol-You are not crap parent ,my ds has nut allergy and I have forgotten his pen a good few times
Hope your dd is better soon

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carol3 · 07/06/2007 23:35

thanks ggirl, just had another call to say she's being really sick again, poor little thing.

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drosophila · 07/06/2007 23:48

Can he not get to a late night chemist and get some Piriton?

My experience is that real bad reactions are hives and swelling of lips and tounge. Milder reactions have been sickness (not vomiting) and very watery stools.

I am a paranoid parent and if I were your ex I would take her to be seen at A&E. It's probably a milder reaction but you never know. Is she ok otherwise.

drosophila · 07/06/2007 23:49

thing is epipen only buys you time in bad reactions to get to a hosp anyway so don't feel bad about that.

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carol3 · 07/06/2007 23:55

the trouble is he doesn't drive and the other 2 are asleep, so can't imagine he dragging the 3 of them out of bed to go in search of a chemist. She isn't showing any other signs, no wheezing or hives.
When she had her first reaction she had hives and wheezing and swollen mouth within minutes.
So my gut feeling is she'll be ok, she ate it at 7.30pm, so I think she would have started wheezing by now if it was going to get serious, but then maybe i'm wrong don't have a lot of experiance of allergies.
Have told him to call me if any signs of wheezing or lip swelling, so hard though when your not there

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Novacane · 08/06/2007 00:07

What about calling out if hours doc if she doesn't improve?

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carol3 · 08/06/2007 00:13

yes good idea, I will suggest next time he texts.
Shit having a bad night lad I look after has just stopped breathing! had to bag him to bring him back shaking like a leaf, going to need some wine tommorrow night!

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carol3 · 08/06/2007 00:41

shit hes just called to say shes asleep but really wheezy (sounds like a broken boiler apparently), hes calling gp out now.

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hellish · 08/06/2007 03:10

just read your thread carol, hopefully you and you dd are fast asleep now (i'm in canada)
Just wanted to say I hope she is fine this morning.

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carol3 · 08/06/2007 04:14

thanks hellish ex rang gp again advised exdh to give her some of his inhaler and to call back if she gets any worse.
I haven't heard anything since 1 am so I am hopeing all well. I finish work at 8am and will be so glad to see her, its been a long night!

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twentypence · 08/06/2007 06:14

You are not a bad parent these things happen.

Ds always throws up - it's the best thing really as it can't do any more harm as it goes through the digestive system.

You've done well to go 5 years without a bad reaction - If you haven't ever had to use the epipen it would be easily forgotten.

I am amazed at the fact that you are only criticising yourself and not your ex. After all he gave her the chocolate and didn't have any piriton in the house. It's not all your responsibility you know.

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carol3 · 08/06/2007 07:01

thanks twentypence,
He blaimed the choclate bar on 3 year old dd2 aparently she swopped it when out shopping for the sort he usually buys!
So her fault really! ffs
He is always completely blameless in anything I have learnt that lesson now [Hmm]

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brimfull · 08/06/2007 21:05

carol-how is your dd now?

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carol3 · 09/06/2007 08:50

thanks for asking ggirl, she's fine thanks, thank goodness. She was a little wheezy on friday but no more sickness.
I now have a box with her epipen and piriton in which will be going everywhere with her.

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brimfull · 09/06/2007 13:51

glad to hear she's fine now

drosophila · 09/06/2007 20:28

Get a couple of spares and leave them permanently at ex's hse. I have had trouble getting extra ones them from GP before but wrote stroppy letter and they backed down. My pharmacist suggested just asking for a repeat prescription and say old one is lost or broken. Much simpler.

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