My sister had a bilateral mastectomy today

[Posey]

I don't quite know what to do with myself. Dh is at work, the kids are in bed. Mum is at sister's, looking after bil and their ds, who is just 4.

Today I was at work, my kids were at school, everything seemed so normal. Yet my sister, who is only 40, is in hospital having her breasts removed.

I am, really, feeling very positive for her and her recovery. I've been strong for her, and my mum.

Just feeling a bit wobbly and unable to fullfill my usual role of being useful.

Thanks for reading.

Posey, a worrying time but maybe try and focus on the future she now has. All the best, have a blub, you might feel better and stronger afterwards.

Awww hun, prayers and thoughts to you all. my sister's going through radiotherapy at the momnent, hers was womb cancer. You feel so useless. I went through a range of emotions. My sister is a lot older at 53 but I feel almost parental towards her.
When does she have the op? Have they said if she'll need chemo or radiotherapy after?
You'll find you're more useful afterwards when she feels a bit stronger. Just knowing you're there for her is a big help too.

((( ))))

i hope everything is OK hun,

you sound like you are a fantastic help to her, just carry on being strong for her!

xxx

She had the op this afternoon, mum rang around 5.30 to say she was back on the ward.
They caught it very early (sis is very breast aware and with small ones, she noticed the lump easily) and have said she may need radiotherapy, almost certainlynot chemo.

As I said, I am actually feeling positive, just rather emotional this eve. No one right here to chat to, so thought I'd seek out my mn mates who always lend an ear. Thanks!

That's good that she's on the ward. Don't know about you but I worry myself senseless when they're in theatre?
So I take it you're both close? How many years between you?
I'm 39 in June and sis is 53 but we're very close, also have a brother who's the big five oh in July!!

Hi there. What a hard day this must have been for your entire family. The enormity of it must be difficult to grasp - especially for you at the moment because you're sitting at home where everything is mostly 'normal' while your sis has had a life changing day. As you've said, there's every reason to feel optimistic about her long term health prospects. Keep us posted. xx

There's just 2 years between us, and although we don't live close to each other, we are close. Probably more so when we both had boys within 6 weeks of each other (we don't do boys in our family!) It was her first child after a struggle to conceive, my second (I also have a daughter) after some hideous health problems (me and dh) so they are our amazing boys
Now thats set me off again. I have a child in my nursery, a boy who is the same age as ours, who lost his mum to breast cancer in November

Thanks for being there. Can't ring a friend as I'll just blub.

take care posey. xxx

for every one like that child's mum there are lots who make it just like your sister will. Like you say she found it early. My sister's tumour was small too and they're only giving her radio as a precaution.
But if you feel like blubbing then do that as it's cathartic sometimes. And totally understandable too.

I know Ulysees

Have just heard from my mum. She's a bit dopey and a bit sore but okay and asking for chocolate!! Feel a lot better for speaking to mum.

Hi HC!

Oh well, if chocolate's on the menu she's on the mend Glad you feel better.

How's your sister today Posey?

Hi Earlybird, am not sure yet! Everytime I ring its engaged. I think most of my sister's many friends must be ringing my mum/bil.
Anyway if anything was untoward I would've heard by now. Will let you know when I hear. Thanks a lot for asking

I think you're right - if there was a problem post surgery, you'd know by now. You and your family have been in my thoughts today. Hope it's all positive going forward.

Spoken to my mum now!
Sis is pretty good, tired, bit sore, but in reasonable spirits. Just needs to get over the surgery, get home and recoup a bit.
Feeling a lot less emotional than yesterday but dh is here which helps

PS Did you get my email?