Hey lacies, sorry I've been a bit mia but I've been so tired and my family are doing my head in.
Bit of back story. I was raised by my grandparents due to a neglectful mother. Grandmother died of breast and spinal cancer 15 years ago.Ive got 3 siblings with vary degrees of mental health diagnosis including autism,adhd and other diagnosis. Brother no.1 lives with grandfather as mother kicked him out a number of years ago as he challenged the golden son.
Since Xmas when grandad was in hospital I've been going over to help my grandfather 3 times a week and cleaning and cooking and keep him company which he loved as we would sit and watch all the quiz shows just like when I was younger and he loved it. Mother waded in and promised she would visit twice a week as well to help clean etc. She stuck to that for 3 weeks. I've been doing it on my own for 8 months.
Ive had to organise everything for both of them to be honest. Gp appointments, physio,wheelchair assessments, catheter supplies, medication being delivered etc
Since diagnosis I've been busy with tests and chemo and being so tired etc. Grandad understands this completely and wants me to rest etc.
In May I found out that brother had been spending lots of grandads money. Police agreed that it's financial abuse but can't prosecute as grandad refused to press charges. Grandads care bill is now £3000 and is still not being paid.
I informed Social services who said they can't really do anything as grandad is choosing to live like that (he is chair bound so how is choosing not to clean?) But agreed that grandad doesn't have financial capacity and gave mother control of his finances which is a laugh when she can't manage money and knew about brother stealing grandads money but did nothing about it.
You'd think that the rest of the family ie mother, sister and 2 brothers would have stepped up a bit as none of them work. But no. I managed to drag myself over there as ive not been for 3 weeks or so and the house was filthy.
The fridge needs condemning, the thermometer said 12° and was full of gone off meat. Stacks of dirty dishes all over the kitchen as brother doesn't wash up. Days old food on kitchen sides. Rubbish everywhere.
I visited for 4 hours on Friday and as a result I spent all day Saturday sleeping as I was so exhausted. 
I can't do this anymore. I've raised safeguarding flags, police and fire have also raised safeguarding. Yet the social worker is happy to leave the situation as it is.
Fuck sake why can't mother,sister and brother 1 go over and clean? I'm tired of their excuses. Tired of it being left to me. I physically cannot do this anymore as the house is a health hazard now.
My partner keeps saying to not be upset or feel guilty but that's my grandad. He worked hard all his life and raised me. I owe him a clean house. The house used to be immaculate when I lived there as grandparents were very house proud.
I need to split myself in 2.
Oh and now my hair is coming out in clumps but I'm too tired to do anything about it.