Has anyone been really poorly, and the cause was psychological?

[plannedshock]

Hopefully I can explain myself a whole year ago I lost my favourite person in the world, lost A LOT of weight but put it down to stress.
Then realised a few moths after I physically can not eat, I vomit or feel full after about a mouthful, got diagnosed with gastritis.
No medication has helped now I've gone from 10st to 7st 11lb, I'm 5ft 8" so look awful, I have been hospitalised twice from passing blood from back passage, I go to the toilet over 10times daily, always loose.
The thing is all bloods are normal, flexi sigmoidoscopy was normal.
Question being, has anyone had serious physical symptoms and felt rotten, I can't even lift my babies I'm so weak, and been told it's psychological, or stress?
If so how the hell do you get better?

I'm so sorry Plannershock. Do you have support? Someone to accompany you to appointments?

I am so very angry on your behalf that your GP didn't refer you for tests sooner.

plannedshock I can't imagine what you must be going through after getting your diagnosis, so I won't pretend. If sharing with us feels at all helpful, I urge you to do so whenever you feel up to it. I'll be checking in every day to gauge if it feels like anything I could say would feel helpful to you. I wish you optimal support and a feeling of being safely held and contained through your cancer experience.

Remember every ounce of strength you've ever felt, in any shape or form. No matter how things look over the coming weeks and months, you can draw on it from moment to moment to hold you together.

Oh OP, I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. ot might be worth contacting a charity like Macmillan for some support whilst you get to terms with this diagnosis and get some more answers. Thinking of you

I’m so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and hoping that it hasn’t spread and you can start treatment soon.

So sorry to hear that and that you got fobbed off for so long. There's a lovely cancer support thread on here with some ladies who also have bowel cancer. I had similar symptoms and had to go private to get tested. NHS said as bloods normal couldn't be cancer but that's not true.

I can't sleep.
I'm just freaking out at how much fight my body has, it's been left so long I'm 7st 11lb how will I cope with chemo? There's nothing left to lose.
A whole fucking year. I even asked so many drs "is it bowel cancer?" All said no. One recommend fibergel.

I'm so sorry to hear your diagnosis

You must be in shock, I have a bowel condition and it took years of fighting to get tests and answers GPS seem so quick to say stress/IBS.

My friend is currently undergoing BC treatment and she ended up back and forth to the GP for 6 months before diagnosis but she has handled Chemo amazingly, do you have a good support around you? How old are your children, old enough to understand? Take help everywhere you can, there's a lovely thread on here like a PP mentioned.

Sending you some very un Mumsnet hugs .

If you join this thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/3288414-cancer-support-thread-63-for-a-handhold-or-advice-and-anything-in-between

there's at least a couple of them with bowel cancer Leslie and Tayto and they are all lovely on there and will be able to help with chemo questions. It's best to ask them but I think some of them take anti-nausea tablets, maybe that would be worth asking doctors about so you could try and add some weight back on first? From what they've said if I've understood right there's different chemo regimes and some are much milder than others.

Oh God I'm so sorry OP.

OP, so sorry to hear this.

Oh I’m so sorry. I started reading, thinking you likely had inflammatory bowel disease and I have lots of experience so was going to offer advice. I’m sad for you and hope you have lots of support and of course, hope it has not spread. Take care of yourself, as you must be in shock.

plannedshock I'm so sorry to hear your news. The cancer support thread is brilliant. I have recovered from cancer and found people on here very supportive. If it helps, I put on weight with chemo. Macmillan has a fab website that gives factual information. Your specialist nurse will also give you tons of information. And be there for you. Macmillan has a section on how to talk to children about cancer. I used it tomhelp with mine. I didn't have bowel cancer but several members of my family have. Good luck. X

Fucking hell. I'm so angry and upset on your behalf OP. Why the hell didn't those doctors act sooner. I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now, you must be reeling from the news. Wishing you strength and courage.

So sorry plannedshock to read your news. Your GP needs to know they missed this. A friend has had similar with DRs missing stuff and she has cancer all over so how they missed it I'll never know as symptoms all there. Well we know how they missed it, they didn't send for scans just fobbed her off. She ended up going to A & E and they took her seriously.
for you.

I've been worrying about you all day, OP. It's crazy that those symptoms were missed. I really hope it's contained and that treatment is straightforward.

Thank you, will join the thread. My children are 5 and 3
This waiting to find out if it's spread is making me lose my head.
Today has been a bad day, I haven't got the head space to be angry yet.

Do you have another adult with you tonight? So sorry and so angry at what has happened.

Just wanted to send you some love and support even if it is over the internet.
I’m sorry you got fobbed off for so long - that’s completely unacceptable

So sorry OP. I can't imagine how you are feeling right now. Sending you positive thoughts and a hand hold xxx

plannedshock for me, the waiting really was the worst bit- to find out the stage and the treatment plan. I needed additional tests which took time. But it's a conveyor belt really, there's a 'protocol ' for each cancer and treatment at least to start with and the NHS gets going fast. I was 'lucky' as my kids were older than yours. But it was still very hard for them. Take any offer of help you get and ask! People are desperate to help. Food, babysitting, cleaning - I took everything! It helped a bit. It's not easy obviously but I sincerely hope you get through this next but. As for making a complaint, perhaps you 'should' but you must think about your own energy and the needs of your family too. Complaining does use precious energy. Hugs