I am scared

[anitagreen]

Hi I don't know what I'm really posting here but just need to offload anonymously.
I've had a bit of a hectic life and I'm now 25 with two small kids in a long term relationship not the best of relationships but it's okayish.
I suffer with anxiety quite a lot I'm not on any medication at all nor do I want to be. I just want to be able to be happy and stress free but I don't know how to be this?
I don't get a break from my children at all unless my dd is at nursery. Then it's me and the ds until pick up time. I was doing okay and then I had a huge fight with my DH other something insignificant and ever since then I can't find my happiness again. He's not really supportive. Neither is my mum however my nan is and we get on very well so I can offload and open up to her however no one seems to be able to "help me".
I'm constantly feeling on edge, overwhelmed I can't concentrate I've lost my appetite and I'm quite tearful I don't think I'm depressed I think I'm just in a low mood due to falling out with my DH. We are slowly rebuilding our relationship but in the mean time I'm scared I'm turning crazy I just don't feel myself even the littlest of noises is to much to handle and this heat isn't helping. I've referred myself to a anxiety support group and waiting to be contacted but in the mean time what do I or can I do?

Hang in there! I don’t think we can achieve stress free with young kids as they tend to go hand in hand but we can alleviate it as much as possible. You say you don’t want meds, which is of course absolutely fine, but is there a reason for this? I ended up on meds but only for a short time and while they’re not a magic pill they allowed me to function with some clarity. It may be worth a chat with your gp to explore all options.
With regards to your relationship with your partner, that’s a tough one. He really ought to be supportive, does he know the extent of your feelings?
If you’re really not keen on doctors etc might be worth looking into “mindfulness” it’s helped a lot of people. I really feel for you, you can only take one minute at a time. Keep talking on MN if it helps, hopefully others will be along with their advice. Virtual hugs.

Thank you Phoenix. I'm scared to take tablets I always worry they could make you worse or turn you into a zombie or suicidal.
My partner is one of them people where he doesn't want to know or think of MH or any depressing stuff which upsets me as I need his support when I feel like this.
I can talk to my friends but they don't really "get it' if that makes sense. I'm hoping the feeling passes soon and I feel happier again in time. Just hate getting so worked up to the point I feel and worry I will explode or turn crazy

I wonder if your low mood and hectic life is leading you to not eat properly. The GP visit might lead to blood tests which identify deficiencies which can be remedied with a prescription or recommendations for OTC meds. Not all anxiety has to treated with anti-depressant meds. If you have a good GP he will listen to your concern and not prescribe medication that you do not want.

All sorts of vitamin and mineral deficiency can have an effect on you, but without correct blood tests you will not know. I would suggest this is the first avenue to explore. Sadly, it takes s lot of courage, these days to make a GP appointments. We seem to be brainwashed into not wasting their time.

I'm scared to take tablets I always worry they could make you worse or turn you into a zombie or suicidal

I'm medicated for anxiety and I'm not a zombie or suicidal and nor do I take anti depressants. You really need to eat, low blood sugar will make you feel worse.

I do agree you probably should go and get bloods done to check for any underlying problems first though. Exercise is good for anxiety.

Thank you everyone funnily enough I had bloods done a few months ago and I was very low in vitamin D so I did take it then I stopped is it ok to take them and a magnesium supplement together? I'm just so tired of feeling low and not happy I don't want to die at all I don't think I'm depressed I've just had enough of battling it on my own

My dh I think is the main cause though he doesn't help me with the kids at all he's out every day and when he's home he doesn't allow me to have time to myself, he speaks to me like a piece of shit and clearly isn't happy he tells me not to offload on him writing this out is speaking volumes

I did not want to diagnose over the net , but I felt exactly the same. My results came back that I was exceptionally low in Vit D and Magnesium. I was Prescribed high dose vit D and I bought a magnesium spray from H&B. On the recommendation of another MNetter I also take a vitamin B complex and L-Tryptophan. I do feel better. Sadly I can’t offer a solution to the unfair burden you are carrying.

I will have a look I've read up on something called 5htp if that's any good? I might try rescue remedy to x

It seems to work for me but I have not done any sort of tests, like stop taking it to see if I feel worse. I do think the B complex really helps me, but everyone is different.

I am for the past few days waking up with bad anxiety it's now staying the whole day. Spoke to my partner about it and he's agreed to help me and be more suooortive however my chest is constantly tight and I'm constantly worrying all throughout the morning and day. Has anyone tried Kalms before?

Kalms gave me dreadful headaches and did not help with anything else

I took one didn't seem to do much except make me a little tired but I think it's this heat you know that's making me feel so awful. I don't like being hot or clammy. In cold weather I'm normally fine it's bizzare