Ds might have chicken pox - could I pass it on to someone who is pregnant after lots of IVF???

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I am meant to go to a wedding tomorrow. Ds woke up this morning with a few spots on his face. The doctors says it's too early to tell whether or not it's chicken pox. I'm pg, but have immunity. The bride's sister is finally pg (about 7 months) after something like 10 rounds of IVF and I am bricking myself that if it is CP, I might give it to her. No idea whether she has immunity or not and can't get hold of my friend.

Anyone know the answer?

If in doubt at all don't go with your DS
If she is not immune, and if DS has it, it would not be much good for her and hte baby
Lots of ifs i know, but err on the side of caution in this case

Ds isn't going. Just me and dh. I think dh has had it too so should be immune.

In theory you can't pass it onto her if you have immunity, but your DS could, and so could anyone else in your family who has not had CP.

So you can go but don't take your DS or anyone else in your family who hasn't had CP.

It is, I believe, technically possible to get it twice though, so you might want to avoid breathing on the bride's sister, just in case.

I can't really see the problem as long as DS is not going.

Just to add a disclaimer - I am not a medical professional, just repeating what my midwife told me when a family friend had CP.

Oh Ds not going, you see you shouldn't be able to give it to her as long as you and DH have both had it, but i know what you mean about the worry.
maybe have big shower , wash hair and then not touch DS before you set off.

The dangerous time for her would be towards the end of her pregnancy which she is. I'd try to get hold of someone medical to ask to be honest

Only your ds would be contagious atm. You can't pass it on by proxy.

Sounds like it should be okay, but I think I will call the doctor as you suggest, Pixie. Should have thought of that myself, but brain not functioning properly! It was their last attempt so would not want to jeopardise her pg, however unlikely it is that we could pass it on to her.

Double-double check that your DH has had it though. People are very vague about these things - my BIL was absolutely positive he'd had it and then it emerged that he was thinking of mumps

when I was pregnant I was told that unless I was actually in physical contact with a person with cp I couldn't have caught it. I wasn't sure of my immunity whne pg for the first time then an idiot brought a little girl in the restaurant where I was waitressing who had jsut broken out in it.

DS1 thoughtfully caught chicken pox when I was 8 months pg with DS2. My mother couldn't remember whether I'd had it or not but on the basis at least one of her children had, she thought the others must be immune. A pragmatic view but not very helpful at the time.

The midwives' view was that there was a risk that DS2 appeared (early) while either DS1 was contagious, or I was contagious if I caught it from DS1. A baby born from a mother without chickenpox immunity could be in a very serious position - whether or not being breast fed.

I'm not medical in anyway so I don't know if you can pass on your DS's CP, but that's how it was explained to me a couple of years ago.

We had a happy ending - my blood got tested, I had had CP, DS2 was born not early to the house of plague but bang on time after the end of the spots.

Doc has confirmed what you've all said and says it's fine for us to go!! Much happier now... Thanks for all your input...