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Help with GP fears

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namechangedadviceplease · 11/06/2018 09:46

I have name changed for this thread as I don't want it linked back to me.

I'm just looking for a little bit of help and advice really.

I need to register with a new GP after moving. That involves a new patient check at the surgery.

It's been years since I visited the doctor and I have only had one appointment in 10 years.

After a minor accident I could do with getting looked at so I can't put off registration any longer, plus we are hoping to start our family in the next year or so, which obviously means check ups and appointments are necessary.

The problem is I find medical appointments very difficult due to past experiences (not related to medical practises). It's not injections, or bloods or anything like that which scares me. My fears even caused an issue when I went to get my eyes tested. It's the physical contact, feeling a lack of control over the situation, feeling unable to voice myself if I don't want to do something, and sometimes the phrases used that causes a problem for me.

I am hoping that some of you who may have experienced similar issues (either personal experiences, being close to somebody with these problems, or even in a work setting) will be able to come up with suggestions on ways to make me feel able to attend appointments.

I really do want to go and to take charge of my health. My DH is very supportive of me and knows the basic reasons for my fear, but I don't want the fear to delay our life plans.

When we have been discussing how to get over this hurdle, it has been decided that I need to come up with a plan of action that is workable for me.

I know I need to bite the bullet, but I really can't go to an appointment alone and once I get there I may not be able to explain why I'm scared and what help I need.

My DH will drive me there and back and knows to expect me to me upset. We don't think he will be allowed to come into the appointment with me though. Both of us always thought adults had to be seen alone. Is this true?

I just need a plan. Obviously register, wait for appointment are the first steps but after that I really don't know what should be on my plan, and I do need a clear plan on ways to react to make me feel like I have a bit more of a say during examinations.

OP posts:
lostinsunshine · 11/06/2018 10:00

If you need someone with you, that should be fine.
You sound like a sensible person with a "thing" about medical stuff. Totally ok. They even call it "white coat-itis ".
Take a deep breath. Do it. And plan a treat for yourself.
Good luck.

lljkk · 11/06/2018 21:55

Of course adults don't have to be seen alone. He can come in with you. How do you think carers of people with dementia manage? They have to be in there with the patient to understand their treatment.

I don't want to encourage you to put this off... but why do you need to register with a GP? Lots of people don't bother.

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