DA v ill - cancer - feel helpless

[cancersucks]

okay so heres the long story

year ago DA found lump in breast which was removed and had chemo for 6 months just after last dose found another breast lump and lumps in lymph nodes, more chemo before finishing course she collasped and has been told she has multiple tumors in her brain.

Radiotherapy might reduce the size of them but doubt will get of them. So we know shes not got long.

she has got children in there twenties and young grandchildren youngest just 6 weeks old. it just seems so unfair.

has anyone else been here and can offer me some advice?

no advice, but a close friend had a brain tumour diagnosed a few years ago, turned cancerous last year, died last March - she left two children (8 and 14), a sad sad time. Just wanted to send you hugs, really.

no advice but wishing you all lots of luck with the treatment
xx

thanks - need all the support in the world at the moment

will bump this later for the evening crowd

So sorry to hear your news. My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer a couple of months ago. She has had surgery and radiotherapy. We know she has been lucky i.e. no signs of it anywhere else at present, but I understand the most awful feeling of not being able to do or say anything that will help. My thoughts are with you and yours at this time.

Some time ago there was a thread on here by someone who lost their mother to cancer. I can't remember what it was called I'm afraid

But that person said that the most precious thing you can do now is to give your DA time. Spend what time you can with her, chat to her, just hold her if that's what she wants. Make a photo album NOW of some of the happy times you had together as a family, and take it to show her. If she wants to talk about her impending death, PLEASE let her, esp. as she may need someone who is not her child to talk to.

It will be a horrid time for you and the family I know, but try to share as much as you can.

Love to all concerned

nothing profound or helpful to add but wanted to send my support and sympathy to you and your family.