Apologise, this is just more a rant than anything else really although I would be super grateful for advice.
I’m 24 and 11 months post-partum. Since I’ve given birth I have had horribly painful and heavy periods – they are getting worse every cycle. In between I have spotting and sex is becoming painful. I’ve also been so so so tired. 3 months ago I have started having urinary problems – I can’t stop peeing (I have bladder control, I can still do trampolining but I just need to go every hour)! Also for 3 months I have been experiencing strange constipation and diarrhoea along with constant painful lower belly and back pains, so painful that sometimes I just sit their crying or feel like I am going to be sick. For past month I’ve becoming increasingly more bloated – I’m only a size 6/8 but look 5 months pregnant – I’ve a larger belly now than what I did post-partum! I’ve lost weight because I’m no longer hungry.
A few months ago, my GP and HV said the periods were just post-partum stuff. They also said painful sex was normal after the cut & stitches (they didn’t listen, its deep not surface pain!). And they said all mums are tired.
But a couple weeks ago, I went to see my GP again about my old and new issues. Originally I went in saying maybe its Endo – my 12 year old sister is undergoing investigations for Endo currently – but she said it didn’t sound like that, especially how I’ve not presented these symptoms pre pregnancy.
She’s said it’s most likely Chlamydia – never mind I had a negative test for that during pregnancy and DH and I haven’t slept around since?
TBF she is sending me for a scan, on the 22nd, as she said if it isn’t Chlamydia it could be something more sinister. But she said in the mean time I should be working on my pelvic floor muscles as that is why I am needing to pee all the time (as UTI test came back negative). I felt like screaming at her as I had great pelvic floor control post-partum (happily jumping on trampoline a month after!!!!).
Meanwhile I am upset because I’ve had comments from my family how I look pregnant – which hurts so badly because we have been trying for 10 cycles (I can have pretty short cycles) now with no luck!
And I am stressing because I foolishly looked up my symptoms and I tick all the symptoms for Ovarian Cancer. I keep thinking that if my GP thought it was that she would have surely got me booked in for a scan sooner?
Hopefully everything will come back clear and I have to face that I just suffer with horribly painful cycles, serious bloat and toilet issues – along with what feels like, coming up to cycle 11, possible secondary infertility.
Is there anything I can do in the mean time to help me stop stressing or working on my bloat and pain? And yes I have stopped looking at Google, I realise that anything you type into there comes back with “Cancer” as a result. And I know 11 months post-partum is still early for TTC and my body getting used to being back to normal etc. Just I don’t feel right at all!
Feel more post-partum-like now than what I did actually post-partum!