DP Ridiculously deep sleep

[jacobsgirl]

Hi everyone just looking for some advice or knowledge

My dp is an amazing dad and partner I'm so blessed in every way, except this one issue.

Basically he is a really really deep sleeper. This is like nothing I've ever seen.

So if my baby cries he won't wake up. Fire alarms he won't wake up , but he seems to have a good body clock.

For example if he knows he has work he will wake for an alarm on his phone. But if he doesn't have anything HE NEEDS TO DO. He will sleep right through everything.

It's really starting to take it's toll as we have a 8 month old who wakes at 5:30 am and when it's his turn to get him I need to wake up to try and wake him up anyway which can take upwards of 30 mins.

I shake him I shout I pinch I put alarms on I've done it all - but it's almost as if subliminally he knows I'm there so our baby's isn't in danger etc so he doesn't NEED to get up.

I know he doesn't do it on purpose as he is always really upset with himself if he sleeps in. But I don't know if this could be a medical thing?

Does anyone have any experience? He's only 22.
Also he turns into a completely different person when he's asleep. If I try to wake him he will some times quite aggressively grab my arm and push it away and make these noises like a stroppy teenager.
This is totally opposite to my man when he's awake, he's the most gentle person I know.

Should we see a doctor ? I'm so scared of something horrible happening in the night or while he is asleep and I can't wake him

i know you said he doesn't do it on purpose but it really sounds like he does op to grab you and push you away means he is waking up but doesn't want to get out of bed.

It's just he seems to genuinely not remember it when he wakes up and it's just so unlike him

It's bizarre I really hope he's not doing it on purpose because it would be a side to him I've not really seen before

22 year olds do sleep a lot though don't they. He barely IS out of the stroppy teenager phase. I know he's a dad and everything but a very young one.

I sleep very deeply and my dh can't wake me if I've fallen asleep on the sofa. Apparently I've told him to go away and pushed him off whilst asleep, I have no recollection though.

I would give anything to have the deep sleep I used to have. It's a very precious to have. I know it seems very unfair to you as the consequences are that you are left to care for your baby at night yourself, but don't resent him for it. What it means though is that he should be more refreshed in the morning, so he should be able to do more to help during the day when he is there to do so.

Well if he is able to wake easily when his alarm goes off for work it does seem like he can wake up, he just doesn't want to

Has he got a Fitbit? You wear it and It tracks sleep to show deep, light and R.E.M. sleep - so you can see if he really is a constant deep sleeper or maybe just having you on so he doesn’t have to see to the baby.

I used to sleep like this, fire alarms, sirens etc, nothing would wake me. I was also able to wake up at the exact time I needed to without setting an alarm. My sleep has got lighter as I have got older. I don’t think it’s anything to worry about medically and I’m sure if it was a genuine emergency he would sense it somehow. As someone’s said earlier, just give him more to do in the daytime.

Dilly I can wake fairly easily when the alarm goes off when I'm in light or R.E.M. sleep, just not when I'm in deep sleep. And I can sleep through anything in deep sleep so what you've said just isn't true.

I would see the gp, I'm under the sleep clinic at the moment , I can sleep so heavily at times that I cannot be woken, or appear to be awake and speak to DH/ dd/ ds whilst I'm asleep. DD does the same and is very difficult to wake up at times. It's honestly not something that I have any control over.